Why do exes keep coming back, especially when you've finally healed from the pain they caused you? Do they really miss you and want to be together again? Maybe they are manipulating you and just checking to see if you are still interested?
There are many reasons why your ex might come back to you, so you need to pay attention to how he behaves until you are sure that he has the right intentions, because you do not want him to break your heart again.
Remember that you broke up for a reason. History could repeat itself, so you have to be careful. Listen to your heart, but don't ignore what your head is telling you or what your six senses are telling you.
If you're wondering why your ex suddenly re-entered your life after months or even years of separation, here are some possible reasons.
Your new relationship has made them jealous
Even if they are not with you, they may not want someone else to be with you. They may have come back into your life and caused chaos. They may be trying to destroy your new relationship so that you will be alone, just like them. The message they sent you out of the blue may seem innocent, but it could actually be a way of manipulating you to destroy your current relationship.
Maybe they want to ruin your new relationship. Photo: Chermiti Mohamed / UnsplashThey need emotional support during a difficult period in their lives
They may be going through a difficult time in their love life, career or family. Because you were always there for them when they needed you in the past, they reached out to you out of habit. They are looking for comfort and they don't care if they hurt you in the process. They only think about themselves.
They were thinking about the good memories you shared
Maybe they came across old photos or messages that reminded them of you. Maybe they heard your song on the radio or saw a movie you once watched together. Remember that your ex is only human. They are allowed to miss people from their past just like you. This does not mean that they want to reconnect or open old wounds. It may just mean that you have played an important role in their lives.
They found that the new relationship required too much work
In the modern world, it is very difficult to find love. Therefore, the old relationship may seem more attractive than the new one. They may find it easier to go back to someone like you who already knows their strengths and weaknesses. That way they don't have to start over. They don't need to get back into the dating game and browse through dating apps. They can pick up where they left off with you and skip the getting-to-know-you phase.
They want to boost their egos
They may only want to see if they still have power over you, they are not interested in a date, only manipulation - an ego boost.
They just want sex
If your ex returns, ask him about his intentions. They may be looking for a casual relationship, an excuse to see your body again. And since you already know what they like in the bedroom, it's easier for them to message you than it is to meet someone new, say, over the internet.
They are drunk and not thinking clearly
Some people like to say that drunken words are sober thoughts. But you deserve someone who treats you well and gives you special attention, whether they're drunk or sober. If your ex truly cared about you, they would approach you with maturity and respect.
They didn't get over you
They loved you at one point and love doesn't disappear as soon as the relationship ends. Only time can heal wounds, and if your breakup is still fresh, they may have trouble getting over it. You may still be the person they want to spend their lives with, even though they know they need to leave you in the past. They may have trouble moving forward without you, especially if you were their best friend.
Or they want to start all over again. Photo: Panajiotis / PixabayThey didn't get closure
They may still be looking for answers. They don't understand what caused the breakup and need a better explanation. They are trying to figure out what they did wrong. They may even want to fix the problem. If seeing them again will hurt you, cut ties completely. They don't need to be given an explanation or a second chance at the expense of their own mental health. They will eventually move on, with or without closure.
Now things are really different and they want to try again
Maybe your ex had a good reason for leaving. Maybe they didn't want to try a long distance relationship. Either way, maybe their feelings for you were genuine. They may not have been able to give you what you deserved in the past, but now they are able to fulfill your needs.
Remember that the only sensible way to get back with your ex is if things have really changed. Otherwise, you'll just end up re-wounding your heart.
Take your time and think carefully about your decision. Don't jump back into a relationship with them as soon as they come back. Ask yourself if this would really be good for you. Talk to them about what it would mean to be back together. Make sure you are doing what is best for you!
