Mor lister 27 ting, hun ville ønske, hun havde vidst, før hun fik børn: Forældre over hele verden klapper hende!

Da bi novi starši lahko bolje razumeli, kaj se bo zgodilo, je Casey Huff delila seznam stvari, za katere bi si želela vedeti, preden je postala mama. Od “guglanja” simptomov, do občutka krivde po neizogibni napaki: vsi starši tega sveta so zaploskali Caseyjinemu pristopu, ki kaže na realnost vzgajanja otroka. “Materinstvo mi je dalo namen, za katerega nisem vedela, da ga imam,” je Casey povedala za portal Bored Panda. “Nekaj resnično ponižnega je v tem, da imaš ob sebi človeka, ki je odvisen od tebe za vse. In to šele postavi v perspektivo stvari, ki so v življenju resnično pomembe.”

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Can I tell you what she really wants? Not just on a random Sunday in May, but every day? Appreciation. Real, tangible, appreciation—spoken and shown. Gosh, she does so much. “I know she does,” you say. “She does the laundry and dishes and watches over the kids. I’m grateful for that.” And you DO know . . . at least you think you do. And you ARE grateful . . . at least you think you are. You see the stuff on the surface, but so much of what she does is done in the shadows. In the invisible seconds of the day. In the late hours of the night when everyone else is sleeping, and you assume she is, too. But she’s not. Because that lunch needs to be made. Those socks don’t find the hamper themselves. The baby’s weird rash won’t miraculously disappear without her late night Googling for remedies. That favorite stuffed animal isn’t ready for snuggling if she doesn’t throw it into the dryer. The kids' craft project isn't finished without some serious guidance. Your favorite dinner doesn’t get made without special thought as she writes out the grocery list. The toddler doesn’t just suddenly start using the toilet. Boo-boos and tears aren't mended without a special kind of touch. That mac ‘n’ cheese caked onto the high chair doesn’t scrape itself into the trash can. Life doesn’t just HAPPEN. Not without her. All of the tiny details you may not even realize exist are cared for because she is there. And she knows you work hard, too. She knows you spend long hours and make sacrifices with her in mind. But she doesn’t feel seen for all of the little things that make the house run and the family happy and the world go ‘round. So this year, for Mother’s Day (better yet—EVERY day) . . . Notice. Step in. Take part of her load without her asking or hinting or mumbling under her breath. Pause. Look around. See her tireless efforts in every nook and cranny of your life, because that’s where they are. Tell her you see her—really, truly SEE her—and never stop telling her. I promise, that’s everything she really wants.

Et opslag delt af Casey Huff | Bouncing Forward (@bouncing_forward) on May 9, 2020 at 8:15pm PDT

Pa si poglejmo njen seznam!

27 stvari, ki bi si jih želela povedati kot sveže pečeni mamici, če bi lahko šla nazaj v času

1. Du vil faktisk sove igen. En skønne dag.
2. Amning er godt for barnet. Mælkeformel er også. Gør hvad du skal gøre. Det er dit bryst, det er din baby.
3. Den tid et barn tilbringer foran fjernsynsskærmen er ikke et problem. Sørg for, at det, han ser, er alderssvarende, og læn dig derefter tilbage og drik din kaffe i fred. (Forbered dig også på at have mindst én sang fra tegnefilmen altid fast i dit hoved).
4. Jeg ved, at de babysko er såååå søde, men giv dem tilbage. Dit barn vil kun bruge dem én gang, før den venstre sko er tabt for altid.
5. Opbevar altid en stor pakke kyllingemedaljoner i fryseren til hurtig frokost eller aftener, når du er for træt til at lave aftensmad.
6. Den ene gang, du glemmer ekstra tøj til din baby, vil være, når han har den "eksplosion" i bleer! Jeg advarede dig.
7. De eneste mennesker, der skal "validere" dine forældrebeslutninger, er dig og din partner. DU er forælderen. Så længe du kun har det bedste for dit barn i tankerne, så ignorer nej-sagerne!
8. Stol på din intuition – det er næsten altid rigtigt, og det er en meget værdifuld gave!
9. Børnelægen vil vurdere dig under undersøgelsen, om dit barn har to forskellige sokker på fødderne.
10. Når du leder efter sundhedsoplysninger til dit barn, kan Google være din bedste ven, men også din værste fjende.

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I am not made to be with my kids 24/7. Some moms are, but I am not one of them. That has taken a lot for me to admit. I've had to push aside so much guilt and shame and what-the-heck-is-wrong-with-me-ness to be able to look that truth in the eye. Do I love my kids? Only with every single beat of my heart. But I am so much better for them when I get some breathing room sprinkled into my weeks. I'm more patient, more affectionate, more understanding, more FUN. I thrive on my ability to recharge, whether it's a solo trip to the store or an unrushed cup of coffee or a full day to myself or some time to focus on my work without interruption. I need to be able to step away sometimes and be on my own schedule. But this quarantine has made that (among other things) all but impossible. And I've lowered my head and pressed on and pulled from every energy reserve I have to love my kids in the way they deserve to be loved. And we're doing okay, most days. But if I can tell you a dirty little secret, just in case you're feeling it, too, and need to hear that you're not alone… One of the things I'm most looking forward to on the other side of this is regaining some of that space from my kids. Just enough to breathe. Some of us moms are not made to be with our kids 24/7, despite the fact that they are our whole entire world. I'm learning that that's okay…and I hope you feel it, too.

Et opslag delt af Casey Huff | Bouncing Forward (@bouncing_forward) on Apr 28, 2020 at 9:23am PDT

11. Du vil lave fejl. Skub skyldfølelsen til side og gør det bedre næste gang!
12. Disse billige materialer til kreative projekter, som du finder i forskellige kurve rundt omkring i butikken, vil hjælpe dig med at holde din fornuft og holde din lille og du kede sig, mens du er på barsel. Smid et par stykker i din indkøbskurv, mens du er der. Selv tak!
13. Listen over ting, du "ALDRIG ville gøre" som forælder, bliver kortere og kortere med tiden. Det er okay at grine af din "præ-forældres" optimisme og "indhente".
14. 90 procent af, hvordan du har det, overføres til dit barn. Hvis du har svært ved at håndtere deres adfærd, så se på dig selv først.
15. Lav først en pandekage, og fortæl så barnet hvilken form det har. Den "dinosaur"-pandekage, som du ved et uheld nåede at lave, er meget nemmere at lave end den, du lovede ham.
16. Ingen, der nogensinde har fået børn, forventer, at dit hus lyser op fra gulv til loft – du lægger bare pres på dig selv. Hold dit hus så rent, som du kan, eller "rodet" i det omfang, du stadig er komfortabel.
17. Alle, der er trætte af at se dit barns billeder på sociale netværk, kan "scrolle" videre. Vær ikke flov over at være stolt af dine børn! Vis dem!
18. Dine børn er lige så heldige at have dig, som du er at have dem.
19. Hvis du nogensinde formår at tage et billede, hvor du alle kigger på kameraet, så indram det! Du kan kun få succes i den næste om et par år.
20. Selv når du sværger, at du er klar til at tage en pause fra dine børn, vil du savne dem, når I ikke er sammen.

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Forældreskab

Fanget i digitale enheders fælder: Har skærmtid stjålet den rigtige barndom fra mine børn?

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27 THINGS I WISH I COULD GO BACK AND TELL MYSELF AS A FIRST TIME MOM (Pt. 2). 16. No one who has ever had kids expects your house to be spotless—you’re the only one putting that pressure on yourself. Keep your house as clean or as messy as YOU are comfortable with. 17. Anyone who gets tired of seeing photos of your kids on social media or elsewhere can choose to keep scrolling. Don’t feel awkward about being proud of your kids. Show those babies off! 18. Your kids are just as lucky to have you as you are to have them. 19. If you ever get a photo of your whole family looking at the camera at the same time, frame that sucker. You might not get another until your kids are all teenagers. 20. Even when you swear up and down that you are SO READY for a break from your kids, you’ll find yourself missing them when you’re apart. 21. The best days are the days when everyone in the family stays in their pajamas. Cherish them. 22. Loving your kids in all of their forms is 95% of a job well done. 23. Marriage is a tough job, and throwing a baby into the equation will rock the boat more than you ever imagined. Keep working at it; your spouse is worth it. 24. Find your favorite kind of sweatpants or yoga pants and buy two pairs for the days you're behind on laundry (AKA, every day). 25. Don’t be fooled—no one has it all together all of the time. 26. You are a good mom. SUCH a good mom. Extraordinary, really. There will be many days when you forget that, but that doesn’t make it any less true. 27. You don’t have to be perfect for your kids to really, really, REALLY love you. (If you missed #1-15, look back at yesterday's post) 📸 @highwaytenphotography

Et opslag delt af Casey Huff | Bouncing Forward (@bouncing_forward) on Feb 1, 2020 at 6:18pm PST

21. De bedste dage er, når hele familien bliver i deres pyjamas. Sæt pris på dem.
22. At elske dine børn i alle deres "former" er 95 procent af et veludført arbejde.
23. Ægteskab er hårdt arbejde, og når du tilføjer et barn til blandingen, vil det ryste grundvolden mere, end du nogensinde havde forestillet dig. Men arbejd på det først, din ægtefælle fortjener det!
24. Find dine foretrukne sneakers og køb to par til de dage, hvor du ikke kan vaske tøj.
25. Lad dig ikke narre – ingen lykkes hele tiden.
26. Du er en god mor. EN MEGET god mor. Du er grundlæggende fantastisk. Der vil være dage, hvor du glemmer det. Men det betyder ikke, at dette faktum er mindre sandt.
27. Du behøver ikke at være perfekt for at dine børn virkelig, virkelig, VIRKELIG ELSKER dig.

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