Mamica našteje 27 stvari, za katere si želi, da bi jih vedela, preden je dobila otroke: starši s celega sveta ji ploskajo!

Starševstvo je, stoodstotno, nabiranje izkušenj. Zdi se, da lahko prebereš vse knjige tega sveta, obiščeš vse možne tečaje, a ko pride tvoj otrok na svet, imaš vedno več vprašanj kot pa odgovorov!

Da bi novi starši lahko bolje razumeli, kaj se bo zgodilo, je Casey Huff delila seznam stvari, za katere bi si želela vedeti, preden je postala mama. Od “guglanja” simptomov, do občutka krivde po neizogibni napaki: vsi starši tega sveta so zaploskali Caseyjinemu pristopu, ki kaže na realnost vzgajanja otroka. “Materinstvo mi je dalo namen, za katerega nisem vedela, da ga imam,” je Casey povedala za portal Bored Panda. “Nekaj resnično ponižnega je v tem, da imaš ob sebi človeka, ki je odvisen od tebe za vse. In to šele postavi v perspektivo stvari, ki so v življenju resnično pomembe.”

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Can I tell you what she really wants? Not just on a random Sunday in May, but every day? Appreciation. Real, tangible, appreciation—spoken and shown. Gosh, she does so much. “I know she does,” you say. “She does the laundry and dishes and watches over the kids. I’m grateful for that.” And you DO know . . . at least you think you do. And you ARE grateful . . . at least you think you are. You see the stuff on the surface, but so much of what she does is done in the shadows. In the invisible seconds of the day. In the late hours of the night when everyone else is sleeping, and you assume she is, too. But she’s not. Because that lunch needs to be made. Those socks don’t find the hamper themselves. The baby’s weird rash won’t miraculously disappear without her late night Googling for remedies. That favorite stuffed animal isn’t ready for snuggling if she doesn’t throw it into the dryer. The kids' craft project isn't finished without some serious guidance. Your favorite dinner doesn’t get made without special thought as she writes out the grocery list. The toddler doesn’t just suddenly start using the toilet. Boo-boos and tears aren't mended without a special kind of touch. That mac ‘n’ cheese caked onto the high chair doesn’t scrape itself into the trash can. Life doesn’t just HAPPEN. Not without her. All of the tiny details you may not even realize exist are cared for because she is there. And she knows you work hard, too. She knows you spend long hours and make sacrifices with her in mind. But she doesn’t feel seen for all of the little things that make the house run and the family happy and the world go ‘round. So this year, for Mother’s Day (better yet—EVERY day) . . . Notice. Step in. Take part of her load without her asking or hinting or mumbling under her breath. Pause. Look around. See her tireless efforts in every nook and cranny of your life, because that’s where they are. Tell her you see her—really, truly SEE her—and never stop telling her. I promise, that’s everything she really wants.

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Pa si poglejmo njen seznam!

27 stvari, ki bi si jih želela povedati kot sveže pečeni mamici, če bi lahko šla nazaj v času

1. Dejansko boš spet spala. Nekega dne.
2. Dojenje je dobro za otroka. Tudi mlečna formula je. Naredi, kar moraš. To so tvoje prsi, to je tvoj otrok.
3. Čas, ki ga otrok preživi pred televizijskim zaslonom, ni težava. Prepričaj se, da je tisto, kar gleda, primerno letom, nato pa se usedi in spij kavo v miru. (Prav tako se pripravi na to, da boš imela vsaj eno skladbo iz risanke vedno v glavi).
4. Vem, da so tisti otroški čevlji takoooo ljubki, ampak jih daj nazaj. Tvoj otrok jih bo imel na sebi ravno enkrat, preden se bo levi čevelj za vedno izgubil.
5. Vedno imej velik paket piščančjih medaljonov v zmrzovalniku za hitra kosila ali večere, ko si preutrujena, da skuhaš večerjo.
6. Tistih enkrat, ko boš pozabila na rezervna oblačila za otroka, bo ravno takrat, ko bo imel ta “eksplozijo” v plenicah! Posvarila sem te.
7. Edini ljudje, ki morajo “potrditi” tvoje starševske odločitve, sta vidva s partnerjem. TI si starš. Dokler imaš ti v mislih le najboljše za svojega otroka, ignoriraj črnogledneže!
8. Zaupaj svoji intuiciji – skoraj vedno ima prav in je zelo vreden dar!
9. Pediater te na pregledu bo obsojal, če ima tvoj otrok na nogah dve različnih nogavici.
10. Google je lahko v primeru, ko brskaš za zdravstvenimi informaciji za svojega otroka, tvoj najboljši prijatelj, pa tudi tvoj najhujši sovražnik.

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I am not made to be with my kids 24/7. Some moms are, but I am not one of them. That has taken a lot for me to admit. I've had to push aside so much guilt and shame and what-the-heck-is-wrong-with-me-ness to be able to look that truth in the eye. Do I love my kids? Only with every single beat of my heart. But I am so much better for them when I get some breathing room sprinkled into my weeks. I'm more patient, more affectionate, more understanding, more FUN. I thrive on my ability to recharge, whether it's a solo trip to the store or an unrushed cup of coffee or a full day to myself or some time to focus on my work without interruption. I need to be able to step away sometimes and be on my own schedule. But this quarantine has made that (among other things) all but impossible. And I've lowered my head and pressed on and pulled from every energy reserve I have to love my kids in the way they deserve to be loved. And we're doing okay, most days. But if I can tell you a dirty little secret, just in case you're feeling it, too, and need to hear that you're not alone… One of the things I'm most looking forward to on the other side of this is regaining some of that space from my kids. Just enough to breathe. Some of us moms are not made to be with our kids 24/7, despite the fact that they are our whole entire world. I'm learning that that's okay…and I hope you feel it, too.

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11. Delala boš napake. Potisni krivdo na stran in drugič naredi boljše!
12. Tisti poceni materiali za ustvarjalne projekte, ki jih najdeš v različnih košarah po trgovinah, ti bodo pomagali ohraniti zdravo pamet in pregnali dolgčas tvojega malčka in tebe na porodniškem dopustu. Vrži jih nekaj v nakupovalno košaro, ko si že ravno tam. Ni za kaj!
13. Seznam stvari, ki jih “NIKOLI ne bi naredil” kot starš, bo sčasoma krajši in krajši. Okej je, če se smeješ, tvojemu “predstarševskemu” optimizmu in “dognanjem”.
14. Tvoje počutje se na otroka prenese v 90 odstotkih. Če se težko soočaš z njihovim obnašanjem, najprej poglej sebe.
15. Najprej naredi palačinko, nato pa povej otroku, kakšne oblike je. “Dinozavrovo” palačinko, ki ti je uspela čisto ponesreči, je veliko lažje narediti kot pa tisto, ki si mu jo obljubila.
16. Nihče, ki je kadarkoli imel otroke, ne pričakuje, da se bo tvoj hiša svetila od tal do stropa – s tem samo daješ pritisk nase. Naj bo tvoja hiša čista do te mere, kot zmoreš, ali pa “razmetana” do te mere, da ti je še vedno udobno.
17. Vsi, ki so naveličali gledati fotografije tvojega otroka na družabnih omrežjih, lahko “scrolajo” dalje. Naj ti ne bo nerodno, da si ponosna na svoje otroke! Pokaži jih!
18. Tvoji otroci so ravno tako srečni, da te imajo, kot si ti srečna, da imaš njih.
19. Če ti kadarkoli uspe narediti fotografijo, kjer vsi gledate v fotoaparat, jo uokviri! Naslednja ti lahko uspe šele čez nekaj let.
20. Tudi takrat, ko se zaklinjaš, da si pripravljena na odmor od svojih otrok, jih boš pogrešala, ko ne boste skupaj.

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27 THINGS I WISH I COULD GO BACK AND TELL MYSELF AS A FIRST TIME MOM (Pt. 2). 16. No one who has ever had kids expects your house to be spotless—you’re the only one putting that pressure on yourself. Keep your house as clean or as messy as YOU are comfortable with. 17. Anyone who gets tired of seeing photos of your kids on social media or elsewhere can choose to keep scrolling. Don’t feel awkward about being proud of your kids. Show those babies off! 18. Your kids are just as lucky to have you as you are to have them. 19. If you ever get a photo of your whole family looking at the camera at the same time, frame that sucker. You might not get another until your kids are all teenagers. 20. Even when you swear up and down that you are SO READY for a break from your kids, you’ll find yourself missing them when you’re apart. 21. The best days are the days when everyone in the family stays in their pajamas. Cherish them. 22. Loving your kids in all of their forms is 95% of a job well done. 23. Marriage is a tough job, and throwing a baby into the equation will rock the boat more than you ever imagined. Keep working at it; your spouse is worth it. 24. Find your favorite kind of sweatpants or yoga pants and buy two pairs for the days you're behind on laundry (AKA, every day). 25. Don’t be fooled—no one has it all together all of the time. 26. You are a good mom. SUCH a good mom. Extraordinary, really. There will be many days when you forget that, but that doesn’t make it any less true. 27. You don’t have to be perfect for your kids to really, really, REALLY love you. (If you missed #1-15, look back at yesterday's post) 📸 @highwaytenphotography

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21. Najboljši dnevi so tisti, ko cela družina ostane v pižami. Ceni jih.
22. Imeti rad svoje otroke v vseh njihovih “oblikah” je 95 odstotkov dobro opravljenega dela.
23. Zakon je trdo delo in ko sem prišteješ še otroka, bo to zamajalo njegove temelje bolj kot si si kadarkoli mislila. Ampak še najprej delaj na njem, tvoj zakonec si to zasluži!
24. Najdi model svoje najljubše ternerke in kupi dva para za tiste dni, ko ne boš uspela oprati perila.
25. Naj te ne zavede – nikomur ne uspeva ves čas.
26. Dobra mama si. ZELO dobra mama. V bistvu si neverjetna. Prišli bodo dnevi, ko boš na to pozabila. Ampak to še ne pomeni, da je zato to dejstvo kaj manj resnično.
27. Ne rabiš biti popolna, da bi te tvoji otroci imeli res, res, RES RADI.

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