Countless women around the world feel shame because they fall short of society's expectations when it comes to their looks, careers, relationships, opinions... Guilt is a toxic emotion and far less tolerant than regret or acceptance. While it is omnipresent, you can tame it with self-awareness. And these are 10+ things women should never feel guilty about.
Here are 10+ things that really turn women on you should never feel guilty.
Taking care of yourself
Don't feel guilty at all about taking time for yourself, even if some people think it's selfish or narcissistic. When you take care of yourself, you will also shake off the thought that you should feel guilty and the thought that it matters what others think. Plus, taking care of yourself means having enough energy to take care of those around you.
The way you talk
Young women, especially those exposed in the media, are often accused of having a squeaky voice and speaking with too much confidence. Imagine how much you could get done if you accepted the way people talk and sound and instead listen to the content of what they are talking about.
say "no"
Say "no" to things you don't want to do. This will free you up and allow you to focus on what works best for you.
Expression of emotions
Emotional control can bring you more inner peace, but it's still okay to express strong emotions. There is a really ugly stereotype that women who show their frustration or sadness are hysterical and attention hungry. After a bad week, nothing is more cathartic than a healthy scream or cry.
Entertainment you enjoy
Do you enjoy romantic comedy? Fashion magazines? So what if the media often characterizes them as regressive or trivial. There's nothing wrong with loving them, as long as you also think critically about them.
The house or apartment is not always clean
Society often puts unfair pressure on women that everything around them must always be clean and tidy. But there's nothing wrong with taking a break and not cleaning if you don't have the time or energy for it.
The body
No matter what shape your body is, you have the right to feel comfortable enough in it to assert your presence.
Career
Constantly comparing yourself to others who do things you don't want to do can be self-defeating. Everyone deserves to have their career decisions respected.
Rejecting nice people
Nowhere does it say you have to accept the affections of all moderately decent romantic friends. Sometimes you and a nice guy just won't have chemistry, and there's nothing wrong with that.
Relationship status
Those in a relationship are often accused of not having time for family and friends. Those who like to be single are accused of not having a partner. At the end of the day, the most important thing is to spend time with those you care about.
Either you want children or you don't
Children are a sensitive topic for women. Wanting to have them can come across as uninterested in your career and wanting to not have them quickly comes across as weak and selfish. But still, follow yourself.
Your opinion on marriage
You're damned if you say yes, and you're damned if you say no. Some are shamed for marrying 'too young' or 'too old', others for not wanting to marry. No problem, just follow yourself again.
Makeup
Wearing makeup is your way of expressing yourself, so don't let the sharp tongues that fervently defend the natural look keep you awake.
Food
Do you also hold back on food in society? Remember that it's more important that you feel good about food than that it's a source of shame for you.
Your value
Asking for a raise can be an incredibly awkward and stressful affair. But knowing your value in business or when working with clients can free you from work that may be holding you back from better opportunities.
Modesty
In an age of beautiful Instagram feeds, the temptation here is to reach for expensive clothes, beauty products and home products. But people shouldn't feel cheap or unsophisticated if we can't buy designer products.
Mistakes
In the business world, mistakes can be quite expensive, and you can feel a lot of disappointment. Yet they shape your growth, both professionally and personally.
You don't have 'everything'
A perfect career, savings, a beautiful home and family... No one really has 'it all'. And it's okay to embrace any insecurities and ask for help when you need it. Instead of wanting 'everything', be happy with what you have.
Answering calls and messages
In the 21st century, calls and messages are expected to be answered immediately. But if we want to keep our sanity, then turn off notifications every now and then and take your time before replying to people. Quality before quantity!
Setting up for yourself
Do you also apologize for expressing your opinion? Being able to own your emotions makes you your own person and not pushy or mean-spirited.