When we have excessive and unreasonable expectations of others or when we constantly analyze the behavior of people around us, we create "drama" for ourselves. If you want your relationships with others to be happier and more successful, stop expecting the following 10 things from them.
1. Don't expect them to always do what you think is right
A person's morals and ethics are based on many factors such as upbringing, culture, spiritual beliefs and the like. If you never swear, but your friend swears a lot, does that mean he's doing the right thing? According to your beliefs, such a person did not act correctly. To expect, yes others will always act the way you think, that's right, it will only cause you frustration. Rather, focus on sticking to your moral values and letting others live as they wish, as long as they don't harm you or other people.
2. Don't expect them to be perfect
If you see imperfection as perfection, then you will never be disappointed. However, many people are very impatient with the faults of others, which makes them feel disappointed. It has also been proven that perfectionists who suffer from obsessive-compulsive behavior often suffer from depression, anxiety, and chronic diseases. They are constantly stressed, because they have to have everything under complete control. So allow others to sin too. So you might learn something from them and change your view of your sinless world.
3. Don't expect them to agree with your every word
The world would be boring if it did everyone always got along. Our unique perspectives and beliefs allow our planet to constantly evolve and create better solutions to problems. Think what would happen if everyone agreed on everything.
4. Don't expect them to read your mind
Some people have more developed subtle intuition, and some cannot "read" other people's faces and feelings. You may be able to understand other people without talking to them, but that doesn't mean everyone has that ability. That's why it's important to know how to communicate openly, because many people can't read your mind.
5. Don't expect them to always support you
Of course, friends and family will help you when you need it, but don't count on that someone will always save you. Maybe they are also struggling with something and can't face your problems and their own at the same time, so try to understand their point of view as well. They want to help you, but they can't at the moment. That doesn't mean they don't care, but it does mean that sometimes you have to wake up the fighter in you and fight your own battles.
6. Don't expect them to always understand you
Not everyone will understand your life path, because this one it does not depend on them, but from yourselves. As long as you understand your life path, you will not need to receive confirmation from others that you are on the right path, and that is why their "misunderstanding" and words will no longer hurt you.
7. Don't expect them to treat you the way you treat them
It is important to have a good relationship first with himself and accept the fact that people will treat you as you treat them. Look at their behavior with a compassionate attitude so you don't feel disappointed and hurt.
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8. Don't expect them to not change over the years
Depending on the circumstances and their experiences, people change over time. They fight hard battles every day that no one really understands but them. Even if their behavior has changed over the years and is not after your ideal standards, try to understand and love them anyway, regardless of who they have become. Keep this in mind the next time you are “tempted” to judge someone.
9. Don't expect their life to always be in order
Everyone faces problems in life and sometimes you need more time to solve them. So have compassion for others and be aware that everyone tries their best strength. Focus on contributing to the betterment of the world and your own relationships with other people, and don't try to control and judge the lives of others.
10. Don't expect people to love you if you're not yourself
Every relationship you have with someone, it starts and ends with you, so you must love yourself first if you want others to love you. Asking others to shower you with love that you don't want to give yourself will only result in a forced, frivolous relationship. On the other hand, when you love yourself, your life will not lack a wonderful, successful relationship.
