Raising children is not only the art of love and support, but also the constant learning of how we influence their development with words. As parents, we often do not realize that with certain statements uttered in affect or boredom, we can unknowingly harm the child's perception of himself and his emotions. Even if we think our words are harmless, they can cut deep into a child's self-esteem.
A child's world is still very sensitive, so it is important to be aware of the power of words. Proper expression and support are key to developing healthy self-esteem and emotional intelligence. Our sentences can either build their inner world or tear it down.
"Stop crying!"
Children should not be prevented from expressing their emotions. Tears are part of their emotional development, and suppressing them can lead to problems managing emotions later in life.
"Let me do it."
Children learn new skills through mistakes. If parents deprive them of this opportunity, they deprive them of the opportunity to become more independent and self-reliant.
"I really don't like you now."
Despite the fact that children sometimes make us nervous, it is important to criticize their behavior, but not themselves. A child's identity is still developing, so such statements are very harmful.
"You have no reason to be sad."
How can we know what our child is feeling? His emotions are real, even if the reasons behind them may be laughable to adults. Understanding and talking about feelings strengthens a child's emotional intelligence.
"Only babies act like that."
Comparing children to babies can lead to shame and rejection of one's own feelings. Every age has its own developmental milestones and frustrations.
"I sacrifice so much for you."
Children did not ask us to become parents. Reminding them of our victims creates feelings of guilt, which can have a negative effect on their self-esteem.
"Leave me alone."
As parents, of course we need our space, but we need to explain this to our children in a loving way, without feeling rejected.
"I never have time for myself."
When children hear this, they can feel like a burden. It is important to express our needs without imposing feelings of guilt on the child.
"Don't ask anymore!"
Children's curiosity is key to their development. If we discourage them from asking questions, we inhibit their natural development and desire to learn.
"Get over it!"
Suppressing emotions doesn't solve problems, it makes them worse. Children need to develop healthy ways of dealing with feelings, not ignoring them.
"It's nothing important."
A child's world is full of great moments, even if they are insignificant to us. By denying their importance, we undermine the child's appreciation of his experiences.
“Don't be so ___.”
Whatever we put into that statement—shy, loud, mischievous—is a criticism of the child's personality. Instead, focus on the behavior and use positive reinforcement.
"I'm not interested in that."
This tells the child that his thoughts and feelings are not important. Such statements can seriously damage his self-esteem and relationships.
The words we speak are extremely important, especially in relation to children. Our language can either build confidence and emotional intelligence or tear it down. As parents, we must always strive to create a loving, supportive environment where the child feels valued and heard.
