Being part of a unit can be difficult. Decisions are made with someone in mind, we have to be careful about the other person's feelings and at the same time take care of our own happiness. Strong couples, especially strong individuals, feel safe in their own skin and can allow themselves to be vulnerable in their relationship with another. When we manage to build such a relationship, we are each other's strengthened support. Strong relationships depend on mutual respect and understanding. And what are the 15 secrets that powerful couples follow and are successful because of it?
We reveal the secrets of extremely successful relationships, which successful couples adhere to and thereby create the conditions for a successful relationship.
1. They don't compare their relationship with previous relationships.
If we compare two things, we will always have a winner and a loser. Every relationship is different, and what made our previous relationship special may not hold true for our current one. Strong couples focus on the relationship they are in.
2. They don't set limits.
By setting limits, our relationship cannot grow. So-called "rules" that prohibit one from doing another will only bring resentment. If we are confident enough in our own skin, then we know how to hold back even in such things.
3. They know how to spend time apart.
Confident couples don't need to be with each other all the time. The fact is, they don't want to be together all the time. They know it is important to still maintain their independence and outside interests.
4. They don't check their partner's phones.
Your need to check your partner's phone shows that you don't trust them. Once you start calling someone else's phone out of curiosity, sincerity has already gone out the window and every beep on the phone is enough to start a fight.
5. They don't disclose their relationship on Facebook.
If you're actually giving such a strong meaning to a relationship post on Facebook to confirm your status, you're probably not mature enough for a real, strong relationship.
6. They avoid deliberately arousing jealousy.
When you're in a solid relationship where you receive enough attention and care from the other, you don't feel the need to seek them out with such low-level tactics.
7. They never humiliate themselves in public.
Deliberately embarrassing your partner - especially in front of other people - is the reason for the breakup of the relationship. There are other ways of expressing yourself that do not involve shaming another.
8. They avoid pointing out the faults of the other.
No one is without mistakes. Strong couples know each other's weaknesses. Rather than dwelling on the mistakes of others, they offer their support.
9. They don't try to change the other person.
You fell in love for a reason, not a "How to make him/her better" project. Stable couples do not try to change the appearance of the other person, nor the character.
10. They do not compete with each other.
There is a difference between challenging a partner and competing with them. In the former, both are better, in the latter, someone has to lose. It's not about who bought what and what they remembered. It is a selfless decision to make yourself happy.
11. They don't embellish things.
They are always honest with each other, even if it's not always what they want to hear.
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12. They never insult their partner's family.
Insulting your partner's family is similar to making comments about your weight.
13. They never deny their affection for their partner.
The sexual component has the same weight as the emotional one. Strong couples have a hard time resisting their partner, and it's even harder to be without them.
14. They don't constantly wonder what their partner is doing and where he is.
Strong couples don't need constant contact. They don't spend time wondering what the other person is doing and where they are. A balance between thinking about oneself and thinking about others is necessary.
15. They never get angry at another without explaining why.
We know that passive-aggressiveness never works the way we want it to. Successful couples are able to talk and are not afraid of the other person's reaction. Holding onto your anger without giving your partner a chance to explain is not fair to anyone.
