Every breakup can teach us something about ourselves and ease the pain that is killing us.
Surely each of us has met with the pain that remains after breaking up with a loved one a person. In such situations, we lose the will to live and get the feeling that we will never recover. But it is important to realize that a broken heart can also teach us something. Time will take its toll, but we will be left with invaluable life lessons.
On the online platform Reddit users asked themselves this very question: what can a broken heart teach us, what is good in it? These are some of life's best lessons.
"I learned that you don't put yourself last and hope that someone else will put you first."
- "It's better to be alone than with the wrong person."
"Don't get into a relationship with someone who could be your partner, but with someone who is."
- "Don't ignore a red flag. I myself had several of them during my relationship with my ex-partner, for example, that he would choose everything else before me. For example, this showed up in texting friends while we were together, and even though I told him I was uncomfortable with it. But I believed him every time because I loved him."
"When he shows you his true colors, believe them. The right person will never lead you to such a situation.”
- "If he tells you he's busy, he might not be lying every time, but if he really wants to be with you, he'll make time for it. So don't ever sit back and hope that things will be different when he's done with the responsibilities. In most cases, nothing will change.”
"Breaking up does not necessarily mean that we have given up. I used to believe that everything could be solved by talking. But you have to learn to recognize the difference between someone who doesn't deserve to spend energy on and someone who is worth fighting for."
- "The most important thing is to learn to love yourself! In life, you will meet people who will love you at some point, but this love will die out after a while. So if you haven't already, love yourself first. You are your only support, and the way you love yourself is reflected in the quality of your relationships with other people and your happiness.”
"Never return to a ship that has sunk. If you had a good time with your ex-partner, this does not mean that you will be happy with the renewal of the romance. If you believe it's time to move on and you're still thinking about your ex, give yourself time to clear your emotions. Move on and don't think about the reasons why you stay.”
- "If you are hurt, don't lose yourself at all. If someone hurts your heart, rise above it and don't let it turn you into a mean and vindictive person. Be good, love the people around you and don't forget who you are. Don't let it destroy you.”
"Maybe you love someone with all your heart and they love you, but that doesn't mean you are destined to grow old together. In order for them to succeed, your life goals must also match. Love will not be enough.”
- "Never force anyone to be with you. Don't let someone ask you to 'earn' their love. If someone loves you, they'll show it all the time, not just when they get what they want."
"I am stronger than I thought. Even when I was suffocated by anxiety and loneliness, I survived and used it for personal growth."
- "It is not true that we have only one soul mate. There are many opportunities around us, but they need to be recognized.”
"The mistakes of your partners are not your mistakes. Whenever they try to convince you of this, realize that you are not to blame for their pain, nor can you fix their mistakes.”
- "I've been through the worst, but I'm moving on."
