If you are one of the single women looking for a partner, you must be wondering what the problem is and why guys never ask you out or on another date. Are they just shy and afraid to make the first move, or is it about you and your behavior?
Relationship experts explain that many single women they make certain mistakes that they are often not even aware of. You may be doing them yourself, but the good thing is that once you understand what's going on, you can change it and improve your chances of finding the right one.
In this article, we reveal what they are the most common mistakes single women and why men don't ask them out.
1. You insist on unwavering independence
There is nothing wrong with independence, moreover, every woman should be able to take care of herself. However, some women wear this independence as a badge of honor. Maybe you earned your independence the hard way, or maybe it came at a high price, so you like to emphasize it. The problem is that men in most cases they turn off too independent women, relationship experts point out. As ridiculous or trite as it may sound, men want to feel needed. They want to fix the car, open the jars or do something else. So when you brag that you can do everything yourself, it feels unnecessary. If you want a guy to ask you out, not during the first conversation emphasize your independence. Sooner or later he will realize that you are great, but first let him see your softer side.
2. You are obsessed with your career
You love your job and are great at it. However, everyone should know how to separate business and private life, and a man will definitely not be interested in your career obsession. Whether you're a careerist yourself or just working for a living, no one wants to talk about work on a first date. It's boring and pointless. In addition, such conversations, as experts explain, could awaken a sense of competition, and nothing 'kills' romance faster than that. There are many other much more interesting and exciting topics to talk about such as travel, books, movies, food or hobbies that you love. Such topics will be more fun for both you and him and will allow you to learn more about each other.
3. You are too devoted to motherhood, not enough to your femininity
If you're a single mother, your children definitely mean everything to you. You want them to have the best and enjoy their activities. It is natural that you will talk about your children. However, the question is, how much time should we spend talking about children? If most of the communication will be on the first meeting reduced to talking about children, you will be more of a 'mom' and less of a woman, which is not attractive to some men. At some point, children will become an important factor in your relationship, but that will come with time. Bringing up kids is fine, but don't dwell on the subject if you want a guy to ask you out on a first or second date.
4. You are a big pessimist and always complain
Women who constantly complain, have a negative attitude or are pessimistic are not attractive to men at all. You will never make a good first impression if you present your problems at the very beginning. Even if your objections make sense, you'll only be outed negative and too pessimistic. If you want to be a happy and fulfilled person and ultimately find a good partner, you need to change your attitude. Try to focus on the good things and find something to be grateful for each day to redirect your energy. Next, think of pleasant topics to talk about with your potential partner to make your date fun, not awkward.
5. You talk bad about ex-relationships
No one wants to hear bad stories about ex-partners on a first date. Maybe you want to explain to your boyfriend why no relationship has worked out for you so far, or you're curious about his failed marriage. Unfortunately, it's not the most productive topic of conversation on a first date, but also rejects boys. Talking about men who mistreated you makes dating awkward. Plus, men are offended when you attack other men, and it's a surefire way to drive them away. Communication on the first date, as well as the one before it, should take place in a positive tone. Show off your good qualities and everything that makes you such a fantastic person.
