You don't need champagne or satin sheets to have a great sex life, you just need to watch out for these few common sex mistakes.
Sex with someone new is an exciting experience, but even couples who have been together for a long time can get to know and explore their partner's sexuality anew. The average person is said to have four to six sexual partners in their lifetime, so don't miss the opportunity to explore your needs and desires as well. In doing so, avoid the following mistakes in a big way.
Think you have to do it like on TV?
Like almost everything in movies, movie sex is a mixture of fantasy and special effects that are only loosely connected to reality. Nevertheless, many cannot distinguish between the film and reality. If you can't, say, hold an erection for an hour or reach a vaginal orgasm, there's generally nothing wrong with that, but it can honestly affect your self-confidence and make it difficult for you to have sex.
Expectations should therefore be realistic, and you can be open to writing the "script" accordingly. It is important to realize that great sex is usually achieved through the simplest of actions and a meaningful connection with your partner.
Are you embarrassed to talk about sex?
People are often more comfortable having sex than talking about it. No matter how strange these words sound. Many people are tormented by shame because of sexual preferences and needs that they do not want to talk about with their partner. Without good communication, couples often find themselves in a relationship where sex is repetitive, unsatisfying.
Some couples may not have sex at all. And that would be bad. In addition to establishing intimacy, sex brings many health benefits, and according to some research, it even extends life.
Do you take your socks off before sex?
Contrary to the thought that it is necessary to get rid of stockings when having a relationship, they can be the sexiest piece of clothing. By wearing them, you can increase the chances of having an orgasm. No one is quite sure why this is, but one theory is that you need to be completely relaxed and anxiety-free to have an orgasm.
Cold feet can, especially among the fairer sex, hinder the ability to surrender to sexuality.
Do you think that not having an orgasm is a real failure?
Sometimes orgasm shouldn't be the end goal, say sex experts. Sexual pleasure is experienced through the process of teasing, creating desire, experimenting with different types of touch, playing and fantasizing.
So if you only focus on getting you and your partner to orgasm, you may end up having the exact opposite effects of sex. You may become emotionally disconnected or overwhelmed with anxiety in the event of failure.
Do you think your partner is reading your mind?
Ah, far from it. If you want your partner to know the things that please you in bed, you will have to talk about it openly with him. Western culture in general has long shamed women for taking responsibility for their own sexual pleasure, so it is right that we put an end to this once and for all.
