Have you recently become single? Don't give in to discouragement, everything will be the way it should be again, give time, give yourself time and remind yourself that you are perfectly fine because you are single.
Your mood fluctuates, one time you are sad, the other time you are almost jumping for joy. And then you are left alone between four walls, it seems that everything you do is not what you expected it to be, you do not find yourself anymore. Sadness and pain flood your body.
Don't wonder: Why am I single? Let's look at some reminders, maybe write them on a piece of paper and put them in a visible place!
1. You should be proud of yourself for choosing the single life
It is much easier to pretend that the wrong attitude is the right one than to admit the truth. It's so much easier to stay in a relationship you feel comfortable in than to start from scratch. You should be proud of yourself for doing what is best for you. Most people would pretend to be happy, pretend everything was fine, pretend she did the right thing by staying. But you made a choice, a strong choice. You should be proud of yourself for that!
2. It's okay to feel like you have no idea what you're doing
Most people feel this way when they are alone, you are not alone. Everyone was wondering in the beginning, is there any secret to dating again? Don't worry, you'll find your way and have fun doing it!
3. Your value hasn't changed now that you're single again
It doesn't have to be others who are happier in relationships than you. Your friends don't have to be more successful in relationships than you. Your relationship has nothing to do with your worth, so stop assuming you're falling behind.
Relationships aren't everything. You are! Photo: Brooke Cagle/Unspalsh
4. It's better to leave a relationship that doesn't work than to stick with it
If they had stayed in their last relationship, things would not have gotten any better. Staying would only have prolonged the inevitable, so it's a good thing you left when you felt it. Your relationship had no future and sooner than later you would be alone again, if not today, maybe tomorrow. Now is your chance to start building a better future.
5. Regrets will get you nowhere
Maybe we could have left earlier. You could already have the right person. Or he could try harder to save his last love. But dwelling on the past won't change it. It is much more productive to focus on the present and the future.
6. No matter how bad you feel right now, you will love again
You will fall in love again and others will fall in love with you again. You won't be alone forever. But even if you are alone for a while, it is not so bad! Single life can be exciting. It can give you the opportunity to focus on yourself, on what you want to achieve, on what you want to become.
Relationships aren't everything. You are!
