I promise to remain faithful to you in good times and bad, in sickness and in health, to love and respect you, all the days of my life. That's what the wedding vows say.
When your partner makes a promise to you, you should keep it. Let's look at the seven unwritten promises.
1. When he promises not to lie to you
I shouldn't tell you even a little lie, no matter what they talk about. He shouldn't keep quiet about the mistakes he made to get out of trouble. He shouldn't have to bend the truth about what happened during the day just to avoid conflict.
He needs to be honest with you, even if he knows you won't like what he has to say, even if it starts an argument, or you'll give him ugly looks for a while.
2. When he promises to be faithful
I should never deceive you. He should never have crossed such an unforgivable line, and he should never have come near it. He must not test how far he can go without getting into trouble. I should be satisfied with only you. You should honor the commitment he made to you.
3. When he promises not to neglect you
I should give you priority. He must not ignore you. He shouldn't make you feel less important than the other people in his life. He should give you the attention and affection you crave. I should be with you, not others. He must respect you.
4. When he promises not to leave you
He mustn't leave as soon as things get tough. He must not be afraid of imperfect moments. We should go through all this together. If a relationship doesn't work out, it's better to end it than to keep fighting for something that isn't working. Your partner should be your support and not let you deal with your problems alone.
5. When he promises to respect you
I shouldn't be following you. He needs to trust you. He shouldn't talk bad about you in front of his friends and call you insulting nicknames during arguments. He shouldn't cross the line just because he's in a bad mood. I should treat you with respect even if you are not happy with each other.
6. When he promises not to hide anything from you
He must not avoid answering questions. I should not hide anything from you. He shouldn't choose what you are allowed to know about him. You should be completely honest with each other. Constantly.
7. When he promises not to harm you
He must do his best to give you everything you deserve. I shouldn't be playing with you. He has to stand by you when everyone else leaves. I should never, ever hurt you in any way, mental or physical.
You both need to work hard to make your relationship strong.
