Love him. He loves you. Are you wondering if he still wants you like he did at the beginning of the relationship?
We all want to be adored by our partner at times and we want to know if we are still attractive to him.
Contrary to the widely accepted assumption that men lose interest over time, experts now claim that men are actually "programmed" for long-term lust.
“This is absolutely true, but not without effort,” he says dr. Jeffrey Bernstein. "You have to be strategic to activate lust in a man after a while because that initial spark in your relationship won't last if you ignore it."
Here are seven strategies that will pique his interest.
1. Say that word that drives him crazy
Nicknames can be exciting, but they can't compare to the hot wave of lust that will go through his body when you say his name in a sensual voice. "It's like an aphrodisiac for him," says body language expert Eva Marx. This makes him lust because this message tells him:” I only think of you and no one else”. and men need to hear this - it has to do with their primal desire to beat all competition.
If you just say his name often, it's not the same. You have to do it in a way that makes sense. For example, when you are out somewhere and you feel attractive, bring his name into the conversation and take a few "dramatic" pauses.
Or try another trick: say his name in a low, gentle voice to get his attention. Use this during sex too, say his name because it will turn him on even more.
2. Look for the keys in his pocket
The lesson is as follows: "Never underestimate the power of an unexpected touch," says David Niven, author of the book 100 Simple Secrets of Successful Relationships.
"By stimulating his nerve endings when he's not ready, you create a positive physical connection that leaves him wanting more touch." What's more, your loved one subconsciously depends on and craves those mini moments of excitement when you're not around.
From now on, constantly look for an opportunity to "accidentally" touch him. For example, don't ask him to give you the keys, put your hand in his pocket and slowly take them out. Don't ask him to add salt, lean over him and "rub" your breasts against his hand. Don't walk next to or behind him in a crowded bar, walk right in front of him and occasionally press your bottom against his groin.
3. Keep it in tension
The interesting thing about men is that the less you tell them about your life, the more interested they become. While you may want to share details about your "crazy" co-worker or the latest plot twist in your favorite series, refrain.
"It is true that, if we ask them, this information is redundant and boring to them," explains Douglas Weiss, psychologist and relationship expert.
Control your chatter and you will discover one interesting thing: the less you tell him, the more he will become interested in you. For example, if you avoid talking about something or want to divert the conversation to another topic, they become interested.
Throw him a bone, for example: "I got a new job" or "I saw your friend," then stop talking and wait. You will get his attention and allow him to extract further details from you.
4. Make small changes for bigger results
You are a woman, for example dyed her hair from brown to red and her partner is delighted. Men notice significant changes in your appearance and are attracted to it. Occasional changes will interest him.
If you want to immediately attract his interest, the change must be very visible. "In order to activate his desire, this change must be an obvious departure from the everyday appearance," says a renowned psychologist David Buss.
What kind of change should this be? It's not just a change of hairstyle - it can also be a change of wardrobe, higher heels or stopping wearing a bra around the house.
5. Praise him in the right way
Just because men don't "hunt for" compliments, at least not as often as women do, doesn't mean they don't like them because they stroke their egos. A man will not ask you: "Honey, does my butt look big in these pants?", but will be grateful for the compliment nonetheless.
"More than anything, men love to feel wanted and needed," claims dr. Jeffrey Bernstein. "When a man hears his partner's praise, it confirms to him that he is attractive to her, which further establishes and strengthens his feelings for her."
There is a special trick with praise. When you want to stroke his ego, stick to this: the more specific and specific (that make him feel unique) the praise, the better.
He may seem to ignore your compliment or tell you that you are exaggerating, but he will actually enjoy every second and every word.
6. Give him sensory feedback
Remember the first days of falling in love with your partner. What reminds you of that time? Remember this and you will find the secret recipe for reawakening passion. "When he feels something he associates with being in love with you, these intense, sensual memories activate a positive physical reaction and automatically create a longing for you," says dr. Jeffrey Bernstein.
Example: "Coconut scented cream always reminds me of her," real man. "It reminds me of the time when we used to go to wild beaches and spend hours there. This scent takes me back to those beaches. "
If you want to awaken memories and feelings for your partner, apply a drop of the perfume you once wore, or visit a favorite place from your shared past, or recreate your first date. You won't have to say anything, the sensory flash will be so strong that it will bring back old feelings all by itself.
7. Take a look at his competition
Lust works in bizarre ways. For example, if you want to renew the passion that your partner feels for you, slyly direct your gaze to another man.
"Men become more attentive and pay much more attention to their partner if other men want her," points out David Buss.
To pique his interest, stare at the waiter or smile charmingly at a stranger. If a man's eyes stop on you, he will be proud that you are with him, he will think: "She's mine and she's coming home with me."
The mere possibility of other men looking at you will make him appreciate the fact that you are there for him.
Be careful with this tactic, don't over flirt with others - you don't want it to end in an argument. Be discreet and cunning.
