These are clear signs that your friendship is toxic and that you don't have a real friend by your side!
Like love relationships, friendships can also be many times inauthentic and toxic. But since we don't have as many expectations with them as with romantic relationships, we sometimes don't notice it right away. These are 7 signs that you can use to find out if your friendships are merely superficial or even harmful.
You keep the good news to yourself
When something nice happens to you, do you try to hold back from sharing it with your friends because you're afraid of their reaction? They often are jealous and competitive, when you are doing well? If your answer to these questions is yes, it's a pretty clear sign that your friendship isn't genuine. Friends rejoice in your successes and comfort you in your failures. Anything outside these limits is not a good sign. The fact that you can share everything you want with someone, good and bad things, is a key component of friendship.
You never get your turn
You start to explain what you got as a gift from your boyfriend when your "friend" interrupts you and starts explaining about her new purse. It often happens to you that you can't say your things to the end because someone else has always something "more important" to say? This is another sign of a harmful friendship. In a healthy relationship, everyone must contribute as far as possible an equal share of listening and explaining. That's the only way you feel satisfied and fulfilled.
She makes you make bad decisions
Do you think so? you always have to do something you wouldn't do otherwise? Do you feel like you have to light a cigarette or get drunk before going to a party because of your friend? Does she make you a worse person? If you answered yes to these questions again, I have bad news for you. You should never, ever, do something you don't want to do just to please others and harm yourself. Such friendships do not make sense, so it is even better to be alone.
You can't rely on her
Whether it's a secret or a lunch deal. If you can't rely on someone because you already know that you he can betray or let him down at the last minute, because he has done this countless times, it is hard to say that it is a genuine friendship. Friends keep each other's secrets, and they also don't let us down or always be late without an apology. This is no relationship.
It doesn't let you breathe
You want to go on a date with someone you recently met, but you can't find the time because you have to spend every afternoon with your friend, otherwise she would be angry? It's normal to want to spend a lot of our free time with our friends, but when it happens to be the only thing we can do in our free time, that kind of friendship starts to get in the way. Just like in a romantic relationship, in a friendship it's important to spend some time apart and do our own thing. When a friend starts getting in the way, it's time to talk.
You don't look forward to socializing
You look at the clock and realize that in half an hour you are meeting with your friend, but at the same time you only feel burdened? This is a sign that friendship is not a pleasure for you, but simply a task that you have to complete. That's when it's good to ask yourself why you feel this way and discover the reason for such feelings. Hanging out with friends should be a break from worries and a time for fun.
Negative, negative and again negative
It's your conversation more than not just complaining and doing? Do you feel like you're in a worse mood after socializing than before? If someone sees everything only negatively, they can quickly transfer it to us as well. It's normal that everyone complains sometimes, and friends are there to listen to it, but when it becomes the only activity in friendship and it no longer makes us happy, it's time to reflect or have an open conversation.
