If you have a broken heart, it is not easy to put it back together and live on as if nothing happened. Scars remain that cover your heart and soul. The memories of those who are gone slowly destroy you, eat away at you.
You no longer want to find someone with whom you can share your dreams, confide your pain, your fears. Someone you would just be happy with. You are afraid of being hurt. You close yourself off into your own world. You keep silent and lock your heart. You push away everyone who wants to get close to you.
But falling in love is not only about giving your heart to someone, but also the search for self-love, for renewed enthusiasm for life. When love fades, it seems as if all doors have closed, but you forget something important: the keys that open the door are in your hands! ALWAYS! Whether you use them or not is your decision. Will they rest in your hands, in a drawer, or will you use them again.
NO, you are not the only person who feels scared and doubts everything and everyone after a breakup. You don't know if you would take the risk and fall in love again, would you let someone else into your heart... It's really complicated and risky, but what if you will be happy again? What if he/she is the one who will enchant your heart forever?
Are you ready to love again? Ask yourself these questions, maybe it will be easier for you to decide whether to open your heart again and slowly love again.
- Do you think you have enough energy to try again?
- Are you able to find the balance needed to start a new relationship?
- Do you want to share everything with him/her?
- Would you sacrifice something of your own making for him? Your peace of mind?
- Do you feel confident about your appearance and who you have become?
- Are you ready to trust someone else besides yourself and get emotionally attached to that person?
- Do you agree that past mistakes should not affect your relationship?
- Have you forgiven the person who hurt you in the past? If not, why not, what is holding you back?
- Do you want to fall in love completely without limits, without hiding your feelings?
- Do you still have feelings, positive or negative, about your ex-partner? If you feel, what do you feel and how do you deal with it? What are you doing to fix this?
- Are you sure you haven't confused loneliness with your belief that you MUST be in love?
- What was the biggest lesson you learned from your previous relationship? How will you use these experiences in the new one? What would you do differently now?
- Have you stopped thinking that "everyone is the same"?
- Are you able to walk in someone else's shoes to better understand and love them?
- Are you ready to rebuild what someone once destroyed?
This is not a question with right or wrong answers. All you have to do is be iturn to yourself when answering questions. Then relax and look into yourself, find the answer within yourself if he/she is what you are looking for.
If it is, give in to your feelings and trust and love. If not, wait, you will know when the right person comes into your world. A person with whom you will not be asked questions, because you will find all your answers in him.
