Even if they say that you should not rummage through your partner's past (if he is not ready to say something about it himself), it has been proven countless times that precisely the events that he has buried somewhere deep in the bottom of his heart affect your current relationship. Before you get caught in the spider's web of SUFFERING, be sure to ask him about his ex-girlfriend and in this way find out if he even makes sense to love such a person.
You've probably been taught that the last thing you want to hear from your partner is his ex's name. WRONG! Talking about your ex-partner does not necessarily lead to the breakup of your relationship, but can help create it solid foundations for the future.
Experts say that a stable relationship can only be built on a foundation past experiences, i.e. broken hearts... and one of the successful ways to do this in future they achieve, is that they also talk about them.
You know that talking about people who were once a part of his (and your) life, step forward, not back.
You MUST ask your future partner about his ex-girlfriend...
Talking about exes will let you know what kind of person you are dealing with
This is the easiest way to find out Is your partner a personal development?l. As you surely know, romantic relationships are like learning experiences that teach you a lot of new things and allow you to test your own limits of interests and needs.
The way he describes his past relationships will tell you, what kind of person he has grown into. Has he changed? What things did he improve? What should I change today? Every experience helps to shape the personality. ask yourself do you want to build a common future with such a partner? Are his past behaviors consistent with your expectations?
- NEVER TALK ABOUT HER:
If he's over his ex, he'll probably admit what their relationship was like and won't be too moved by this kind of topic. However! If he's acting like this relationship never existed, he clearly hasn't come to terms with his emotions. - HE IS ANGRY AT HER:
If he often talks about his ex in a negative context, this can be a sign that there are still feelings on his part. - IDEALIZES THE EX:
It is okay for a partner to speak well of a person who was once a part of his life, but the difference is if he glorifies her image. It is probably clear to you that you will never be able to match her in his eyes?
Past experiences can have a positive effect on the partner not repeating the same mistakes
When you end the relationship, v your brain is activated by physical pain, related to addiction. The human brain has evolved to "connect" with other people, so any breakup is a severe blow, experts say.
Your brain will absorb this pain remembered for all eternity, so when the partner thinks about the ex, he will also remember why their relationship didn't work and the mistakes will be removed tried to fix the past.
An honest conversation between you builds trust
Experts say that people who have faced a breakup should focus on positive sides of the breakup, as if they are trying to completely forget about their former love. That is why it is exceptional Frremarkable conversation.
If your partner is ready to open up completely, tell him every detail, otherwise let him know no need to explain in detail, how his relationship worked. It doesn't make sense to rush into it and curiously ask it for every detail.
