Confidence is the key to happiness! Insecure people always doubt themselves and their self-image. Life and surroundings often recognize this and take advantage of such people. Self-confidence is built from early childhood, and later in life it gives people wings because it represents confidence in themselves and their abilities. If they don't have these skills, they can have problems with themselves and in their relationship with other people.
A lack of self-confidence is expressed in attitude, behavior and body language, as well as by saying certain sentences and phrases.
"I'm sorry to bother you..."
Using this phrase gives the other person total control over you. If you don't think it's the right time to do or say something, say that you'd like to talk to someone when they have more time.
"I'm sorry."
Strong people, those who are fully confident, admit wrong actions and decisions, so they have no problem saying the word "I'm sorry", which is so difficult for many to roll off the tongue. Less confident people tend to use the phrase "I'm sorry". Try to remember how many times a day you say you're sorry about something. Are you really sorry? Did you do something or say something that you should be sorry for? In most cases, the answer will be negative. So next time, before you say you're sorry, think carefully about whether it's really necessary.
"I'm worried."
People who lack confidence have a habit of using this expression whenever they are too worried. Expressing worry indicates that they fear a negative outcome and may be overthinking. In this way, they show that they are not looking for a solution, but are focusing on the problem. Therefore, next time, before you complain to someone that you are worried, think about whether the situation is really worrying, then express it in a completely neutral way, without panicking, otherwise you will give the impression that you cannot face problems.
"I will do it."
Successful people are the first to help and do whatever they can to make something work. But if you're volunteering for everything from making coffee to other small jobs, you're giving people the impression that you're probably in an insignificant position. Be a team player, but don't jump in at every moment for every task.
"I just wanted to..."
Saying phrases like "I need a minute of your time...", "I just wanted to...", they devalue what you think and say.
"It's just an idea, but..."
If you have a suggestion, an idea, or something that worries you, then say so. Don't shrink your mind with "I just...".
"If it's okay, would you mind if..."
Looking for permission to ask something diminishes the importance of you as a person and your work, as well as the value of what you need. This way, you open the door for colleagues and superiors to directly reject you and you won't even get a chance to solve the problems. So when you have a reasonable request, be authentic and show your confidence. Even if you're talking to your boss. Do not use a "weak tone" to suggest that you need help. Be strong and have arguments, explain what and why you need something, and you will most likely be heard.
"I believe / I think / I think that ..."
These are words that soften your statements and give the impression that it is "only" your opinion not facts. By using these words, you reduce the meaning of what you want to say.