How is it possible for someone to build relationships on lies and deception? Is it even possible for the manipulator to change and stop the harmful behavior?
Manipulators are individuals who use subtle or overt techniques to achieve their goals, often to the detriment of others. Their tactics may include lying, pretending, distorting the truth, taking advantage of others' emotions and the like.
It often marks them lack of empathy, which means that it is difficult or impossible for them to understand and feel how others feel.
Manipulation can occur anywhere and cause widespread harm. For individuals who chronically use manipulation to achieve their goals, this pattern of interaction becomes entrenched over time, especially when they receive benefits and rewards from it.
Why manipulators continue to manipulate
Chronic manipulators tend to view others as a means to an end, which leads to the collapse of their relationships. If they are theirs methods have worked in the past, they are more likely to continue and use them even more intensively. The most attractive reward for a manipulator is to see that their strategy works, that is, that others give in to their wishes regardless of the cost.
The manipulator enjoys your pain. Photo: PixabayPossibility of change
Change is not impossible for the manipulator, but it is extremely challenging. First, the manipulator must admit he has a problem, and be willing to seek help. This involves deep introspection and admitting one's own faults, which can be extremely difficult for someone who has used manipulation all their life as a way to survive and achieve their goals.
Psychotherapy is one of the most effective ways a manipulator can begin to change. Therapy allows the individual to confront their behavior patterns and recognize them as problematic. With the help of a therapist, the manipulator can begin to develop healthier ways of communicating and interacting with others.
For permanent change it is necessary constant awareness and self-reflection. The manipulator must be willing to regularly examine his behavior and recognize moments when he resorts to old patterns of manipulation. This requires a lot of self-discipline and a willingness to change.
Support from family and friends is crucial to the process of change. Manipulators often lose the support of those close to them because of their behavior, so it is important for these people to rebuild trust and offer support if they see that the manipulator is really trying to change.
He needs help! Photo: Shvets Production / PexelsFor victims of manipulators, setting boundaries is crucial
Although we want the manipulator to change, it is important to protect our own emotional and psychological well-being. This means being clear and firm about setting boundaries and sticking to them, even if the manipulator resists at first.
Change is a long-term process that requires time and patience. The manipulator will not change overnight. Constant dedication and work on oneself is required. Any progress, no matter how small, is a step in the right direction.
Can the manipulator ever change?
The answer is yes, however, this is extremely demanding and time-consuming travel.
