Even the strongest persons, who respect themselves and their principles, sin in love. These are two mistakes that often make us unhappy.
It's true, love can be blind sometimes - we humans are ready to suffer because emotions cannot be controlled. But that's not right at all. When we find ourselves in this kind of situation, let's ask ourselves if it is worth violating our principles, our values, if the other person does not intend to change and if we unhappy? And these are the 2 most common mistakes people make in relationships!
1. We neglect our needs at the expense of our partner's
If we want to establish a healthy relationship (not only in love, but also in friendship), we must put ourselves first. Women in particular tend to have the need to they please their partner as much as possible in all areas of life and at the same time neglect their own needs.
If we have the feeling that we always adapt to our partner's schedule, that we only cook what he wants, that only his satisfaction is important in sex and that we on the siding, this is a sign that something is wrong. Let's try to talk and solve the problems that have arisen. If we can't find a compromise, it's better to break off the relationship. This one is together with equivalence the foundation of a relationship, so we are just as important as our partner!
2. We tolerate our partner's "flaws" that make us unhappy
We can't change - of course we can we make compromises and adapt, but we will hardly change our personality and the way we live. And this is not unusual. That's why we have to get used to the other person in relationships. What, in principle, should we not accept and what is it that makes us unhappy? In no way should you tolerate major mistakes, such as neglecting your partner's relationship, because we are afraid that we will be left alone! If the other person does not show sincere regret for mistakes or interest in improving, there is no point in suffering.
Psychologists say that this kind of ignoring problems brings dissatisfaction in the relationship and marriage in the long run, so sometimes it is better to argue, like yes we are quiet about the things that plague us. If there is no way to solve the problem, it is better to let's end the relationship, as if we are unhappy and we harm our psychophysical health.
