Even if you've broken up, it doesn't mean you have to cut off contact - at least start by thanking each other for the wonderful time together... you'll see where the road takes you.
The decision to break up is likely one of the hardest decisions in life – especially if you know you'll be with her hurt the partner. Since it is completely normal to still have feelings for the person you were in a relationship with after a breakup, it may happen that you reach out to them, call them, or send them a message. However, what to write ex love?
What to write ex-love the day after the breakup?
1. You ended the relationship, your partner did not take it well.
If you ended the relationship and it was a real shock for your former love, you can write her something like: "Hello. I hope you are feeling better today. I'm sorry if I hurt you yesterday. If you feel the need to talk, I am ready to listen. Take care of yourself."
2. You ended the relationship, your partner accepted it well.
If you ended the relationship and your ex-love took it well, you can still text her the next day. Even though you broke up, it doesn't mean that you don't care about each other. You can write this: “Hello. Thank you for listening to me yesterday. I want you to know that I appreciate how well we did yesterday's conversation and I'm grateful for all the things we've been through together. Good luck.”
3. They ended the relationship by mutual consent.
If you have decided together to end the relationship, you can write a message like this to your ex-lovers: "Hello. I am very glad that we talked yesterday. I think the conversation had to happen and I am reassured that we are of the same mind. How do you feel?"
4. They had a terrible fight.
If your relationship fell apart in the middle of a horrible fight, maybe wait until you've calmed down before texting. This may take more than one night. When you can look at the event from a distance, you can write something like this to your ex: “I'm sorry for the things I said that hurt you. I think we should have opened these threads, but things got out of hand. I hope you are better. I think it is wise to meet and talk in peace."
5. You have been abandoned, you have not taken it well.
Swallowing your pride and getting in touch with your ex-partner the next day is definitely not the easiest thing to do. If you had a hard time accepting the end of the relationship, you can write something like this to your ex-love: "Hello. Thank you for being honest yesterday. I'm sorry I reacted that way. I was not ready for our relationship to end. I hope you understand. Good luck.”
6. You've been abandoned, you've taken it well.
This is probably the easiest of all scenarios. You can write: “Hello. Thank you for being able to talk yesterday and for being so honest. I hope we can remain friends.”
