The zeitgeist, technology, globalization, women's empowerment, pop culture and other trends are influencing the new rules of dating - check what fatal mistakes are you making?
Interpersonal space and social reality is not something that exists outside of us. Both spheres are strong under our influence - how we will behave, what we will believe in, what our reactions will be and the like, will be influenced the formation of norms and rules, which in the future will serve as new milestones (or dismissal slips, depending on the perspective).
How we behave on dates, what kind of technology do we use when establishing romantic relationships, what we understand as normal and what is acceptable, affects the dating rules. And we can all agree that these have been changing exponentially in recent years.
These are the new rules for dating…
We succumb to the idea of endless choices.
Not so long ago, our grandparents simply chose the most handsome boy or the baddest girl in the village, got married and lived a peaceful married life. The feeling of endless choice has also moved from grocery, cosmetic and textile stores to the sphere of romantic relationships – dating has become to a large extent a hunt for the best treasure, but unfortunately the perfect man and woman only exist in our imaginations.
Correspondence took precedence over phone calls.
Sometimes that truly romantic long-distance gesture was a goodnight phone call. Today, the latter are increasingly rare, and are being replaced by text and voice messages and, of course, various images, videos and the like.
The disproportionate dinner payment rule remains the same.
Despite the obvious changes in dating, this rule hasn't changed much - many women and men still think it's appropriate for a man to contribute a little more money when paying the dinner/drinks bill. On average, men earn more than women for the same job. Of course, there are a whole bunch of people who feel differently about it, which is perfectly acceptable.
Even women can take the first step.
The days when men had to present themselves as stoic and infinitely brave heroes who fearlessly go after a girl at all costs and bear rejection as the lightest burden on the planet, and the days when girls had to pretend to be unattainable and hardly anyone moves, they are slowly, slowly ending. Nowadays, it is also allowed for women to call after the first date or even be the ones to ask the man out.
The "three day" rule is dead.
The "three day" rule is an unwritten rule that has caused many sleepless nights in the past. It is supposed to mean that a man waits three days before making contact with a woman again after the first date. Today, communication is faster and clearer - gaming has moved to the bedroom.
Chemistry is allowed to be tested immediately.
Even after the sexual revolution, there was an unspoken rule for women that they should wait at least a few dates before having sex (there is no sanction for men if they jump into bed right away, but they have to manage it somehow). Today, the mindset is slowly changing and more and more young people are experimenting with their sexuality.
Spontaneous date invitations.
Today, dating does not necessarily have to be something planned in advance - often it is just a spontaneous invitation, without great expectations and planning.
Once connected, always connected.
Although they probably hung it on a small bell, they certainly had known one-night stands in the past. Today, the difference is that to a large extent these acquaintances are dragged into our future - with all the flooding of social networks, it is ridiculously easy to find your lover or lover and maintain contact.
