Do you love or feel lust? Sometimes it's hard to tell because both feelings are so damn AWESOME. Perhaps you already know the main differences between love and passion?
The concepts of desire and emotion completely overlap: we need both, that the relationship flourishes, and when we reach them, we are on horseback. But completely unexpectedly, it can happen to us that only lust keeps us in a relationship, which has little in common with love. How to tell the difference?
5 main differences between love and passion:
Lust could be defined as intense sexual attraction – it is like a kind of glue that unites us with our partner and enables physical connection, foundations so on idealization what we want to see in another person and not in reality.
It's on the other side love much more complicated and a broader concept that world-renowned artists and theorists have not yet managed to define. Some definitions of love describe the latter as attractiveness in combination with affection, which means that in addition to sexual connection, you also feel emotional attachment.
Lust is impulsive. Love takes time.
Love is rooted in delayed gratification, and lust is rooted in momentary pleasure. Lust is like sprinter, and love flows marathon. You could simply say that lust is based solely and only on passion and the satisfaction of primal instincts, while love is based on devotion and communication. These two components lead to stability in the relationship. Sure, passion is part of that equation, but if there's more drama, chaos, and emotional upheaval in our relationship than butterflies, we're still far from of love.
Lust is superficial. Love is deeper.
Lust is a state of mind that focuses primarily on the body, seduction, power, fantasy and enthusiasm. In short, we could say that passion is about satisfying "mating" needs. Love is based on emotions, it is risky and sometimes scary. With it, we become vulnerable and are ready to trust our fears, hopes, stories of shame, pride, disappointment... With love, we simply surrender to the partner enter our inner world, which we may not even be aware of.
Lust is based on "you". Love is based on "us".
When we want someone, Mrs "we must have". We need his body or his presence in our lives. Lust is possessive and is based on "you", and sincere love has nothing to do with this, but rather builds on community and "U.S". If we need a person because of their personality, because it complements ours, we are on the right track to feeling the strongest love in this world.
Lust wanes with time. Love grows.
Lust usually is rooted in intense desire per person and over time fade away. It is like a merry-go-round of emotions driven by biological forces and causes the reward center to be activated, driven by the desire for pleasure. It is love rooted in attachment and ties, which only grows and becomes over time stronger. Love is like the desire and need for attachment on a biological, sociocultural and psychological level.
How does our brain respond?
Personally, we may not be able to recognize, what we really feel, but our brains, without us realizing it, they send important messages – the latter behave completely differently when we love or when we feel lust. V studies, published in The Journal of Sexual Medicine, found that when we feel lust, the same parts of the brain are triggered as are triggered during eating food or during sex; while the area of the brain activated by love is more associated with behavioral fitness and rewarding, feelings of satisfaction.
