Don't waste your time or energy on something that doesn't even exist. There is nothing more frustrating than a potential relationship that goes nowhere. It's easy to fall into a trap too quickly, even though you recognize it, because it's not the first time it's happened. But how can you avoid this next time? Let's see.
you meet someone who completely charms you - he's charming, you can talk to him, he makes you laugh, he makes you feel good.
Time passes, it seems to you that you are slowly getting to know each other and you are almost sure that this person is the right person for you. You are trapped.
And then things get tough. However, you still like this person and believe that there is a chance that you can still make it through these bad times. You just have to discover how and then everything will be better.
Try all the possible ways and variations you can think of. You discover that you are capable of many things, even things you never believed you were capable of. You devote all your time and energy to them only in the hope that it will the relationship progressed to the next level.
At first you thought the whole thing was fun, but later on becomes stressfulo. You start to wonder what you are doing wrong because everything is going round and round and there is no progress. You feel trapped, you feel like you're becoming someone else, you feel numb. You need some clarity.
Be true to your feelings
Don't play games. Don't wait three days to call. Don't pretend you don't care if you don't. Show what you feel right now. Do not be afraid to scare the interlocutor with your feelings, because then you start playing and pretending to be cold. You become inauthentic and put on a mask.
Why do you think you will have someone in your life who will be honest with you, who will respect you, if you are not yourself and pretend to be something else?
You may have had bad experiences where you showed too much interest and feelings for someone and they got scared and pulled away. Is the real person the one who runs away from openness and authenticity? Is she the real one hiding behind the mask of perfection?
You realize that this is not the love you want. Photo: Nicholas Gercken/UnsplashIf the other person says that they are not interested in you - believe them
When something awakens in you and when you believe that this person is right for you, you become blind to the simple truth. This person is not for you if they do not have the same interest in you as you have in them. If the other person is honest enough, they will say it loud and clear - trust them.
Respect what he feels (or doesn't feel). If she does not include you in her life and rarely follows your plans and desires - you are not her priority, just as she is you. If you constantly have the feeling that the other person is not investing enough in your relationship, trust that feeling. Because sooner or later you will have to face reality.
A relationship that starts with questions and bad feelings rarely gets better.
Be prepared that you may also have to reject someone without giving them another chance
Don't play around. Be prepared to end a potential relationship, at the very first sign that will show you that it is not what you are looking for. Ask yourself, do you really want someone around who isn't as happy with you as you are with them?
Don't waste your time trying to win over someone you're not a priority for. Such the person is not worth your time not even a second.
Watch her behavior. Does he often cancel dates at the last minute? In what way is he interested in you, does he just want sex? If she's excluding you from her life instead of including you, that person isn't right for you, she's a waste of time.
Respect yourself and don't settle for less, as you deserve.
