Love can make us stupid and blind. Blind to the fact that all the effort and all the love we put into a relationship just isn't good enough. Why is that?
No matter how many times we justify neglect, disinterest, and blatant ingratitude, we will NEVER be good enough for the wrong man or woman. You know that saying, "What is meant for you will happen." right? So if it is NOT meant for us, it WILL NOT happen.
You put your mind, body and soul into the relationship, and all you got in return were “half-kisses” and insincere thanks. When you decided to go all out for this person, your efforts were met with unsatisfying responses, leading you to believe that you are not good enough. Their reactions have convinced you that your actions and efforts are not good enough and worthy of their approval.
The truth is that you will never be good enough for someone who is not ready to accept your love and affection.
Some people need inner healing. Those of us who know how to love ourselves know how to love others and don't expect to get back exactly what we give. People who do not love themselves, however, have a different view of love. When we give them love and attention, they are convinced that they belong to them, that they are entitled to them. Therefore, they have no problem acting like spoiled children if they don't get love or attention in exactly the way they want it. And hence the constant disapproval.
You have spent countless days and nights wondering why they are treating you this way and why you are not good enough. Sometimes you even wonder if it's even worth the effort. The thing is, he/she is not the person for you. Maybe she even was for a while. But it is very important to ask ourselves if the person we are with is contributing to our personal growth, or is it draining us by taking advantage of us. And if that's the case, then it's time to cut that person out of your life.
This does not mean that they are bad people. Maybe they just don't know what real love is, because they've probably never given or received it before. Unfortunately, the lack of awareness of what true and unconditional love feels like can cause one to reject it and make the other person feel that they are not good enough.
You are not responsible for someone else's happiness, only your own. If he/she makes you feel like you are responsible for their happiness, pay attention. This is a classic and toxic manipulation trick this person uses to keep you down.
When we're constantly worrying about our partner's well-being, it's so easy to forget about our own mental and emotional well-being. But when this partner is still ungrateful, it becomes clear that we need to spend some time apart so that he can appreciate our presence and everything we do for him.
Don't stay because you love him/her if he/she constantly puts you on an emotional merry-go-round. Don't expose yourself to constant disapproval because you will NEVER be good enough for a person who isn't ready to accept your love.
Instead of wasting your precious time and love on someone who doesn't appreciate it, give it to yourself and your family. The right man or woman will come into your life at the right time. And that person will LOVE and APPRECIATE EVERYTHING you do for them!
