We learn about partnership all our lives! What if our parents taught us the fundamental truths and wisdom about partnership. Is this a recipe for happiness?
Relationships in the primary family are often those that we ourselves transfer to our partner lives. The father's relationship with the mother is what the son learns and knows. And the latter often behaves towards his partner as he saw with his father. What if parents made sure that fundamental truths and wisdom about partnership were also part of the upbringing.
We checked different ones records of scientists, psychologists and family therapists and chose those truths of life that seem most essential to us.
Jealousy is written in your genes.
Research on the effect of DNA on jealousy, in which scientists studied the responses of 3,000 twins (the twins were included in the study because of their genetic similarity), showed that a third of the tendencies to jealousy are of genetic origin.
Influence also plays an important role environmental factors - especially the events that happened in our lives. How we react to the idea of a partner's betrayal depends on how we are raised, from people and events in our environment.
Friendship
Emotional connection is important for satisfaction of spouses. It represents as much as 70 % of happiness in a relationship, he says research on the impact of friendship on happiness, productivity and health. If you want your relationship to be stable, you have to think, in what way you will improve the quality of your friendship.
6 hours to a better relationship
There is a difference between successful ones and failed relationships, he says John Gottman, marriage expert – successful couples improve their mutual relations by trying to invest extra in the relationship 6 hours a week.
This is the formula for spending quality time with your partner:
FAREWELL: Say goodbye to your partner warmly, with a nice word - this way both of you will have positive thoughts (10 minutes of time per week).
GREETINGS: When you see your partner again, hug and kiss them (6 seconds). Talk to each other after the kiss to reduce stress (20 minutes).
COMPLIMENTS: John Gottman encourages couples to keep a journal of the little things they admire about their partner (35 minutes a week).
COMMITMENT: Expressing physical affection is important if you want to bond with each other - kiss, cuddle and hug (35 minutes per week).
DATES: Romance will connect you - try to go on a date, drink, dinner or a short vacation at least once a week.
DEBATING: Discuss issues related to your relationship once a week - this can change the way you resolve conflicts.
The Michelangelo effect
The Michelangelo effect means you should make your relationship as much as possible firm. Where does the name come from? Because it is Michelangelo was a sculptor, hence the idea that he partner sculptor, which builds a relationship. If two people in love encourage the creation of positive patterns in their relationship, their relationship can last for a long time. S communication they help bring out the best in each other.
Laughing together
According to opinion of psychologists from Appalachian State University laughter plays an important role in successful relationships. Couples who like to spend time together observing positive events are more satisfied with their partners. Laughing together is one of the main reasons for happy relationships.
Sharing household chores
Sharing household chores is important for maintaining long-term relationships, they note in a survey conducted by the Pew Research Center. Romantic couples, who share daily routines, feel more supported and satisfied with theirs love life. If you are lazy at home and do not do housework, at least appreciate your partner's work and thank him or praise him.
