Are there rules for a successful relationship between two? Scientists have analyzed strong and successful couples and found out which 15 things make them so successful.
1. RULE: They do not compare their relationship with previous relationships.
If we compare two things, we will always have a winner and a loser. Every relationship is different, and what made our previous relationship special may not hold true for our current one. Strong couples focus on the relationship they are in.
RULE 2: They avoid deliberately arousing jealousy.
When you're in a solid relationship where you get enough attention and care from the other, you don't feel the need to seek them out with such low-level tactics.
RULE 3: They don't check their partner's phones.
Your need to check your partner's phone shows that you don't trust them. Once you start calling someone else's phone out of curiosity, sincerity has already gone out the window and every beep on the phone is enough to start a fight.
RULE 4: Avoid pointing out the faults of the other.
No one is without mistakes. Strong couples know each other's weaknesses. Rather than dwelling on the mistakes of others, they offer their support.
RULE 5: They do not disclose their relationship on Facebook.
If you're actually giving such a strong meaning to a relationship post on Facebook to confirm your status, you're probably not mature enough for a real, strong relationship.
RULE 6: They don't try to change each other.
You fell in love for a reason, not a "How to make him/her better" project. Stable couples do not try to change the other person's appearance or character.
RULE 7: They do not compete with each other.
There is a difference between challenging a partner and competing with them. In the former, both are better, in the latter, someone has to lose. It's not about who bought what and what they remembered. It is a selfless decision to make yourself happy.
RULE 8: They know how to spend time separately.
Confident couples don't need to be with each other all the time. The fact is, they don't want to be together all the time. They know it is important to still maintain their independence and outside interests.
9. RULE: They do not set limits.
By setting limits, our relationship cannot grow. So-called "rules" that prohibit one from doing another will only bring resentment. If we are confident enough in our own skin, then we know how to hold back even in such things.
RULE 10: They never deny their affection for their partner.
The sexual component has the same weight as the emotional one. Strong couples have a hard time resisting their partner, and it's even harder to be without them.
RULE 11: Do not embellish things.
They are always honest with each other, even if it's not always what they want to hear.
RULE 12: Never insult your partner's family.
Insulting your partner's family is similar to making comments about your weight.
RULE 13: They never humiliate themselves in public.
Deliberately embarrassing your partner - especially in front of other people - is the reason for the breakup of the relationship. There are other ways of expressing yourself that do not involve shaming another.
RULE 14: They don't ask all the time what their partner is doing and where he is.
Strong couples don't need constant contact. They don't spend time wondering what the other person is doing or where they are. A balance is needed between thinking about oneself and thinking about others.
RULE 15: Never get angry at another without explaining why.
We know that being passive-aggressive never works the way you want it to. Successful couples are able to speak up and are not afraid of the other person's reaction. Holding onto your anger without giving your partner a chance to explain is not fair to anyone.
