How many times have decisions been made just to please others? How many times has the answer been chosen that was safer, less daring, more expected? How many dreams have been lost before they even had a chance to truly come to life?
But then a shift happens
Slowly, almost imperceptibly, the need for validation begins to fade. The voices that once dictated the rules become just background noise.
Suddenly, you no longer have to explain your decisions to anyone. Suddenly there is no longer any needfor someone else to say, “Yes, this is the right way.” Because the only one who can say that has been here all along – it's you!
Pleasing becomes a thing of the past
How long did it take to wear masks, play roles, adjust tone of voice and facial expression, just to get others to nod? How much energy was invested in finding that perfect version of yourself that everyone would like?
And then – as if someone had opened the windows – relief comes. You will never be enough for some people. Some people will always find something to change.
And that doesn't even matter anymore. Because pleasing is a marathon without a goal, and one day it becomes clear - that this race is pointless.
True friendships don't require explanations.
There are people who will understand you without explanation. Who won't demand proof of why something is the right decision. Who won't weigh your worth based on how well you fit their expectations.
Those who leave you when they no longer get the version they imagined – they were never really here. And those who remain, no matter what – these are the only ones who ever really counted.
Proof is complete.
How long was the mentality, “I have to show them they’re wrong”? How much energy went into proving it to people who never wanted to see the truth?
And then there comes a moment when all of this is simply abandoned. Let them believe what they want. Let them have their own opinions. Let them create their own stories. Because this is no longer a battle worth fighting. Their truth is not necessarily your truth.
No more need for forced relationships
How much time was wasted on people who always demanded more but never gave the same? How many times did you feel the need to maintain relationships simply because you had to?
But now – finally – comes the realization that true connection, friendship, is not real if it requires constant proving. If it is exhausting, it is not worth it. If it is real, it simply exists – without effort, without doubt, without questions.
The only thing that matters is your own path.
When the need for confirmation disappears, only the essence remains – what has always been here. Your own a dream, own desires, own choices. And suddenly everything changes.
It's no longer about who said something was right. It's no longer about who agrees. It's no longer about whether everyone is happy. It's just about, Are you happy with the life you are creating?