Sex can be complicated, but it doesn't have to be! If you focus too much on the clock, it will ruin the mood between the sheets, so next time, approach the time in a different way.
Insecurity is present when it comes to sex. You might wonder if you are really attractive naked, if you are doing the pose correctly, if you look funny, etc. Sex is a very intimate relationship. And because you're so vulnerable with another person, you can question everything, including how long it should last. But sexuality should be about pleasure and connection, not about a certain schedule.
First of all, everyone has their own definition of sex. For some, it's just purring in bed, while others are focused only on intercourse, the result of which is a climax. But this is where the problem starts. Orgasm should never be the only goal.
If the duration of sex is related to one partner's orgasm, then we omit the time it takes for the other partner to reach orgasm. Men and women often experience orgasms completely differently, at opposite time intervals.
Some studies show that the average time it takes a man to reach orgasm with vaginal penetration is about five to six minutes. On the other hand, one of the few studies that investigated the female orgasm showed that women need an average of 13.4 minutes for love and intercourse before orgasm.
Women often need more stimulation before penetration and generally climax later. Not only does focusing on time become difficult due to gender differences, but it also leaves out those who never orgasm, or those who are unable to orgasm with every encounter, which is not uncommon.
So, how long should sex last?
There is no absolute or standard time range for "good sex"! Some sex experts agree that sex should last as long as both parties agree and enjoy the sex. And this can take from a few minutes to several hours.
The time depends on a lot of factors, but according to research, good sex should last between 5 and 20 minutes.
The advantages of "fast" sex compared to slow
People love quick sex for a variety of reasons. This one is often more fun, spontaneous and exciting. But it's also proof that you don't necessarily need a lot of time to have good sex.
So-called quickies can help break your normal sexual routine and increase excitement and sexual energy. That is why, according to experts, they are a necessity in sexual life during longer sexual relations.
