Cheating is a complex and often painful phenomenon in love relationships. The reasons why people cheat are varied: from boredom to seeking attention, but the common denominator is often dissatisfaction with the current relationship. People are looking for what they lack at home, be it emotional connection, passion or understanding.
However, the biggest flaw in relationships is a lack of open communication. Some people don't realize what they're missing until they find it elsewhere. Ironically, many problems could be solved by regular and honest dialogue.
Cheating is not an impulsive decision, but rather a process that stems from underlying problems in the relationship. Interestingly, research shows that men are more prone to cheating than women, and cheating often stems from feelings of insecurity in the relationship or a lack of intimacy. It is also interesting that cheaters are not necessarily looking for a "better" partner, but simply someone different.
Let's look at some interesting facts about cheating and the things that all cheaters have in common!
• The person is overly protective of their cell phone.
• Statistically, men cheat more often than women.
• The vast majority of those who cheat feel insecure in their current relationship.
• People who cheat usually flirt with many people around them.
• Lack of intimacy is one of the first signs that your partner may be cheating on you.
• Those who cheat often do not think that their lover/lover is better than their current partner, but perceive them as different.
• Narcissism is a trait often associated with infidelity.
• Criticizing your partner is often a way of diverting attention from your own inappropriate behavior.
• Cheating often happens while intoxicated.
• Unhappy marriages and relationships are often the cause of cheating.
Most cheated partners mistakenly assume that the person their partner cheated with is better than them. As a result, they lose self-confidence and believe that their partner does not value them enough. This is not true. People who cheat usually don't see their lover as better than their current partner, they just see them as different. It is important to understand this difference.
The key to understanding people who cheat is to learn about their coping mechanisms with the consequences of their actions.
Shifting the blame is a common tactic of theirs
It is rare for a person who cheats to admit their mistake and express remorse. They usually continue their unfaithful behavior until their partner suspects anything. However, when faced with the discovery of their cheating nature, they often go into blame-shifting mode or pretend that nothing is happening and claim that their partner is just being paranoid.
This can cause confusion and frustration, but it's the way their mind works when you start to suspect or when you discover evidence of their infidelity. Instead of admitting they are guilty of cheating, they focus on finding ways to make you believe it is your fault.
do not allow to destroy your self-esteem. They do this to draw attention away from themselves. Rather than face their actions, they want you to focus on you.
Here are some common statements that cheating people make when confronted:
"You don't trust me!"
"It was just a one-time thing."
"It meant nothing to me."
"It's not what it seems."
"I'm not happy anymore."
"I did it because we didn't have enough sex."
"He/she himself/herself came to me!"
"This happened a long time ago. Things are different now.”
When the fraud is exposed, fraudsters often shift the blame to others or avoid responsibility. They rarely admit fault and often play the victim. Their words when confronted are often evasive or denying, such as “It was nothing important” or “I didn't mean to hurt you”.
The question of whether you should take a cheater back is complex and depends on the individual. The key reasons against a cheater returning are the possibility of repeating the act, issues of trust and the fact that it is difficult to forget the deception. However, if both partners really want to work on improving the relationship and are both willing to compromise and change, it may be worth giving the relationship another chance.
Cheating is a complicated and painful part of many relationships, but understanding its causes and consequences can help clarify how to deal with it. The key to a strong relationship remains open communication and mutual understanding.
What does science say about cheating?!
Scientific research on cheating reveals many interesting findings. Infidelity remains one of the main reasons for divorce. While divorce rates have decreased in recent decades, many couples still break up due to cheating. Research shows that the most common causes of divorce are lack of commitment and infidelity, followed by excessive conflict and arguments, early marriage, financial problems, alcohol or substance problems, and domestic violence. Extramarital affair rates range from 30 to 60 % for married men and 20 to 50 % for married women.
The infidelity model suggests five motivational areas that lead to extramarital affairs: sexuality, lack of satisfaction; emotional satisfaction, dissatisfaction or emotional deprivation; social contexts that facilitate cheating, such as prolonged separation; attitudes and norms, for example, if there are known cases of extramarital affairs in other couples; and revenge-hostility, for example, as a retaliatory measure after a partner's infidelity.
In research, participants expressed various attitudes that could lead them to cheat, such as a natural response to a partner's infidelity, a desire to feel desirable, a lack of sexual relations with a partner, an emotional connection with someone else, long-term absence from a partner, opportunities with colleagues of the opposite sex , the belief that the partner will not find out about the affair, and the belief that certain contexts are acceptable for extramarital affairs.
These findings suggest that the reasons for cheating are complex and vary from case to case, reflecting a variety of social, emotional and individual factors.
