Always put yourself first.
You forgive them in a way that gives you time to heal. This does not happen immediately. It doesn't happen overnight. It's a slow process. You take two steps forward and four steps back. Sometimes absolutely nothing makes sense. But every day you get a little stronger, a little more resilient. Even if you don't always see it.
You forgive them by focusing on yourself. Don't drain your energy into toxicity. Turn that option off. Don't follow her anymore. Just take care of yourself. Re-read your favorite books and go out with friends you trust. Remember how good things can be when you surround yourself with positivity. Tell your broken and wounded heart that it's OK to take a breather. You need time to remember how to smile again.
You forgive them by removing yourself from the situation. The longer you dwell in it, in heartache, the more it hurts and the harder it is to leave it behind. It's hard, but you have to leave her alone. Respect your feelings. Respect your feelings. Don't go back to the past. Don't obsess over what happened. Think of the situation as a balloon. Let it float away. Let it fly away. Say goodbye. He can't hurt you anymore.
You forgive them in a way that gives you time to heal.You forgive them if you accept what they did. This does not mean that the pain is erased. This does not mean that everything will suddenly be fine. That doesn't mean you've forgotten what happened. It just means you've accepted what's been done. It means that you have admitted that there is no button that takes you back to the past, but that you can only move forward.
You forgive them by reclaiming your life. Because there are so many wonderful things and people in life, and not just one person who broke your heart. Never forget that.
