How to make sure that the man you like will not be able to get you out of his head after the first date?
You met an interesting person with whom you fell in love online. It's in front of you first date. Adrenaline and fear settled in you, full of questions. Will the date be a success or will it be a disaster that you will want to forget as soon as possible? It all largely depends on you. Here are some tips so that you can go on a first date with confidence and that the other person won't let you down she won't be able to get it out of her mind.
1. Choose the right location
If you don't yet know what the person you're going on a date likes, it's best to choose a neutral location where you can focus on getting to know each other. Can you imagine going to a restaurant and realizing before the food is even served that you are not a match? Opt for a cafe instead; if you feel uncomfortable, you can leave after the first drink. So choose a place where you will feel pleasant and comfortable.
2. Think positive
One of the most important things to do before going on a date is to say yes you think positively. You can't control the chemistry between the two of you, but you can make sure you're mentally prepared for the date. If you already convince yourself in advance that the date will not work out, these feelings will carry over into you all day and night. And whether you like the person or not, the date is not going to end well. You will realize that every relationship, every person, is different... and what happened in past relationships should stay in the past. The fear you feel about dating isn't a sign that there's something wrong with you, it's a sign that you're only human. And remember: all people make mistakes, no one is perfect.
3. Prepare questions for the conversation
If you're shy or more reserved, the most nerve-wracking part of a first date is talking to someone you barely know. You don't know how find the right questions? Northwestern University psychology professor Dan McAdams wrote a list of 36 questions, which can help you understand others more easily. Let's look at three of them that you should ask a person on a first date:
- If you could choose anyone in the world, who would you invite to dinner?
- What is your fondest memory?
- What makes a perfect day for you?
The key to a successful conversation is also reciprocity. When someone asks you a question, always answer them in a way that you would ask them the same question.
4. Watch your body language
Non-verbal communication (body language and facial expressions) may be the loudest thing you communicate with. How can you be aware of your body language and still act natural? They are in front of you three signs of body language.
A) Mirroring
Research, conducted at the Behavioral Science Institute in the Netherlands, showed that the more we are attracted to people, the more we imitate their behavior. People who like each other mirror their body position and speech. Mirroring can help establish rapport or first contact and can also be used to check if the person you're talking to likes you. If the other person mirrors your speech, they like you.
B) Eye contact
People watch the people they like and they avoid looking in case of disinterest. But there is a fine line between eye contact and staring, which is impolite. Alternatively, you can mask your stare by breaking your gaze when you move your head. If the other person maintains eye contact, they definitely like you.
C) Tilting
Body orientation is an important indicator that the person you are talking to likes you. People tend to gravitate towards people they like, and distance themselves from people they don't like. Active tilting increases as the attitude also increases.
5. What fuels your attraction?
We all want to be attractive to people we like. Do you know what your greatest attraction is? Believe it or not – you as a whole. No, it's not just about what you look like, how you dress, etc., none of that which represents the surface aspects of your life. Attractiveness comes from you. When feel confident, you feel safer and radiate positive energy, thereby attracting other people.
Sometimes dating will be wonderful, sometimes it will be painful, but these are just experiences from which you will learn how to grow. Don't blame yourself if it doesn't work out. Don't be pessimistic - accept a simple fact: bad dates and bad relationships happen, but so do great dates and great long-term relationships.
