Many people are burdened with presenting themselves in the best possible light, wanting to please the masses, and thus sacrifice their true selves. They don't realize that their particularities are what make them unique. Love is no different either; in the effort to find someone as soon as possible, we often turn a blind eye and are completely blind to their flaws, but at the same time, their uniqueness. Is that why we say love is blind? No, love is not blind, we are!
True love is nowhere near two perfect people who meet and live happily ever after - it's a fairy tale. True love is two imperfect people, which find each other and create something beautiful together as one.
So why do we say that love is blind? It's not, we're blind. When the butterflies in the stomach and our elation pass, we see things clearly. We see flaws and we see "mistakes". And if we are mature enough, we will accept it. It is not love that robs us of sight, it is our own expectations that we create ourselves that rob us of sight.
The beauty of relationship is that we find someone who accepts our flaws and understands them. A person who appreciates our "mistakes" and over time, if necessary, gets compensated for "putting up" with them.
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Here are some of the most common insecurities we face in the search for a partner and in the partnership itself.
We think we're weird. We are not, we are unique.
Our quirks don't make us weird, they make us unique. The way we laugh, the way we eat and what our vision of life is. Believe me, we don't want to be like anyone else, because we are the best as we are!
We think we are dogmatic. We're not, we just have strong opinions.
We must not let the fear of being too dogmatic keep us in our own skin. If people are afraid of us, then there is a good chance that they are quite insecure themselves. Our strong opinions show that we are not sheep. And the only way we can be on the same page
side, as our partner is to promote a healthy way of communication.
We think we are too emotional. We're not, we're just passionate.
We may think we worry too much. We may think that certain situations affect us excessively. But that's why we're not too emotional, that means we're passionate. Passion takes hold of us and the things we are passionate about do the same to us. If we're truly invested in the relationship, then it's perfectly fine to show it.
We think we are possessed. We're not, we're just focused.
It is right that we are focused on our careers and that we have set goals. This means that we have ambitions and ambitions will always be "sexy".
There is nothing negative about hard work - if we become restless because of our work and career in a partnership, then our loved ones are failing to support us. They must encourage our progress and not deny it or move away from it.
We think we're crazy. Well, yes, we are.
We're all a little crazy. The difference is what our madness looks like. Madness is only eccentricity, and if we are not at least a little eccentric in life, then we have already missed a lot.
People are supposed to be crazy, life itself is supposed to be crazy, love is also meant to be crazy. And some craziness in our relationship will keep us from getting bored.
We think we are full of mistakes. We are not, we are perfect just the way we are.
We may think that they are full of mistakes and we don't realize that mistakes make us so perfect. We probably know that no one is perfect "by the book", but we still run here and there looking for that perfection. We are left empty-handed and heartbroken. That is why it is right to accept our "mistakes" and the "mistakes" of others as soon as possible and appreciate them.
