When was the last time you really looked into her eyes? Not just fleetingly, by the way, but by stopping and trying to understand what they're telling you?
What about those tiny moments that were once so spontaneous - when you took his hand, because you simply wanted to, or hugged her just because you were happy to have her by your side? When did that fade?
Do you ever think how often you say "I don't have time" or "later" for the things that are important to her? When was the last time you did something just for her without feeling obligated?
If you find the answers to these questions difficult, it's time to stop and think.
Love is not self-evident. She never was and never will be!
One day you wake up and everything around you looks the same. The house, the same. Work, the same. Your routine, unchanged. But something is missing. Something is different. Something invisible, yet so obvious that it stabs you right in the heart.
In the beginning, you were her world. Her eyes glowed as she looked at you. She was looking for your closeness, your words calmed her down.
She's not the same anymore. But now…
She's there now, but she's kind of absent. She speaks, but her words no longer reach you. When she laughs, her laughter is like an echo, empty and lifeless. She used to happily repeat your jokes, but now she may not hear them at all. What happened?
Love doesn't disappear all at once
It decays slowly like an old sheet of paper that time and indifference have begun to disintegrate. It doesn't start with big fights, but with small moments that you didn't notice.
Those days when you were too tired to listen to her. That night when she fell asleep thinking she might have become invisible. Those moments when you believed there was no need to say anything because she already knew you loved her.
The truth is, she never sought perfection
She didn't want that. She wanted honesty. She wanted to feel that you belonged to her like she belonged to you. She wanted your effort. Did you really give it to her? Were you there when she needed you? Were you the kind of person she could always count on, not just when it was convenient for you?
If you're reading this and feel something resonate with you, it's not too late. But I must warn you – love is not something you can buy back with a gift or big words. Love doesn't come back with the promise that you'll be better now. Love takes effort. It requires action.
Go to her
Look her in the eyes, just like you did the first time. Tell her you see her. To know you made a mistake. That you no longer want to allow yourself to become invisible. Then show it. Not just today, but tomorrow, the day after tomorrow, every day, again.
Love doesn't need perfect people
It takes two people who are willing to be vulnerable, honest and present. If you believe she is the one you want to share your life with, then don't waste your time. Take a moment. Remember why you once chose it, and decide every day that you will choose it again.
