"He leads from behind and leaves others believing they are in front." - Nelson Mandela
Ask yourself the question: do you want to keep calm or constantly prove to others that you are right? The answer is simple.
You don't need to have your own epilogue or conclusion in every dialogue or discussion. Let the other person be the winner and you have your peace of mind. It is not necessary for people to think like you or talk like you talk.
What will this accomplish other than boost your ego? Nothing. You will only make enemies. Let people think they beat you and only then are you the real winner.
It's not easy, but try to let the other person be the winner. It means you realize that life is much more than verbal competition or proving your own intelligence.
Great people never had the need to prove themselves to anyone, because they knew and believed in the values that were in them. The ones that don't get bigger or smaller because someone acknowledges them or not. They know that a sense of security does not come from outside, but can only be found within.
Letting the other person be the winner means making a commitment to yourself that your ego will not be the dominant factor in your decision-making, but that your soul will play a more important role. This means that you will perceive the competition not only as a waste of time and sanity, but also as a loss of self-confidence.
Allowing someone else to be the winner means that you stop dealing with trivial things in life and getting into unnecessary battles and instead delve into those decisions that your heart makes.
Let others win, and you keep writing your own life story, no matter whose last it is.
When you begin to control your weaknesses, you will realize that the need to win is among them. Decide what you want out of life and push everything else aside.
Once you stop caring who the verbal winner will be, you will find that you will feel more comfortable in your own skin and become that real winner.
