Falling in love and staying in a healthy relationship is something most people want to experience. When we fall in love, it feels like the earth has stopped spinning and the life we lived before has turned 360 degrees.
Suddenly we are all charmed and become a better version of ourselves. Suddenly everything seems different, better and more alive. In a relationship, especially if it's fresh, it is all we want is to be with a partner. Nothing is more important than taking care of our new reality - for "U.S". We've never felt happier, and we can't believe that this isn't a dream, but that it's all real. We are in love.
When we fall in love, it's like a kind of trust game that our partner will safely catch us as we fall into the depths. When we completely let go, when we completely trust and open up - it's like a fall that we feel intense excitement; but when our partner catches us, we are downright stunned – so much so that we don't want to get up again.
At this point, we can ignore routines and habits that are good for us. Nothing seems more important or fulfilling to us than being with a partner – and when we look at it from a biological point of view, such behavior is by design. If we forget about our interests and goals, it helps us to bond closely with our partner, to constantly be together and ideally conceived and raised a child.
Anthropologically speaking, courtship is perhaps the greatest guarantee that we, and thus the human race, will survive.
Romantic love is so important to our survival that we the brain makes it possible to forget about almost all other obligations and needs so long that the probability of successful continuation of the species is greatly increased - this period is long from 18 to 24 months.
Swimming with the current of this heady infatuation can take us to wonderful places, but it can also tempt us to we forget to take care of ourselves and our daily tasks, that are important to our happiness and well-being. Neglecting important aspects of our lives makes us feel insecure, irritable, even resentful – we get angry at the obligations themselves because we cannot shift them to others or somehow ignore them. We feel it too anxiety, because we don't know how to balance the needs of the relationship with our own needs. Loving and being loved is so enjoyable that we can find it difficult to take care of ourselves.
Love can trick us into thinking that we no longer need to worry about our health and well-being. But without it, our love and relationship will also suffer. So it is wise to listen to that warning anxiety that tells us that we have left everything careless for too long. We ourselves know best which area of our life is out of balance and how to fix it. Maybe we have to pay the bills, mow the lawn or do the laundry. Maybe it does start a project that we have been putting off for too long, or visit a friend or family member after a long time. You could probably also set yourself a goal healthier eating and again going to the gym several times a week instead of lying in bed.
If we set boundaries that allow us to meet our needs again, we will be the healthiest we can be, and as a result, our relationship will be healthy and strong.
It may seem difficult to begin with, but once we break the ice, we will feel less anxious and feel more balanced, which will only strengthen our relationship. If we want our crush to grow into a love that lasts, it is the key is to strike a balance. The true basis of love and a healthy relationship that will last a lifetime is the love of two healthy individuals.
