Why does love sometimes hurt us so much? Isn't love what should make us happy, lift us up, and connect us? Love doesn't hurt!
We often ask ourselves this questionswhen we feel that something that should be beautiful hurts us. But Is it really love that hurts?, or is it our decisions, expectations and fears that weigh it down?
It is pure and free. We are the ones who rob it of its true essence.
Love itself is not painful.
Pure energy at its core. Its power lies in connection, trust and acceptance. It carries no burdens, creates no pain and demands nothing it cannot offer in return.
When we feel pain in relationships, it's often not because of love itself, but because of our own wounds, expectations, and fears. We build walls when we're afraid of losing or being hurt.
What makes love painful?
When we add the weight of our own doubts, insecurities, or desires for perfection to love, it becomes complicated. We want to control because we are afraid of losing. We seek validation because we don't believe we are enough. But it doesn't need these shackles. In fact, it begins to break when we project our inner fears onto it.
Pain comes when we expect love to fix everything that weighs us down. But it is not a savior, it's just a mirrorthat shows us who we are.
The secret of true love
True love is born when we learn to accept ourselves and others as we are. It is not perfect, but it does not need perfection. It becomes effortless when we allow it to exist without conditions and without expectations.
It is important to understand that love is not a gift we receive, but something we are buildingTrust, respect, and vulnerability are the foundations that allow it to grow without pain.
How to free her from pain?
First, we must acknowledge that pain is not a part of love, but a result of our inner struggles. Love is freed from pain when we let go of the need to control, when we forgive ourselves and others, and when we focus on what connects us.
Let's ask ourselves a question: “Do I love from the heart or from fear?” The heart knows no pain, but fear locks us in. When we learn to love with trust and openness, love becomes what it has always been – a source of happiness and freedom.
Love is your strength.
It is not complicated or painful when we allow it to simply exist. It does not demand perfection, but sincerity. There is no room for suffering in it if we nurture it with respect and understanding.
Let love be your inspiration, not your struggle. Let it not burden you, but lift you up. Because it is not painful – we are the ones who make it that way.