Singles are an increasingly large part of society, but they still carry the weight of the expectations of those around them. Parents, relatives and friends like to express "sympathy" and "advice" such as "You'll be thankful you were alone" even though they themselves don't feel the need to change their status. On World Singles Day, let's take a look at 18 phrases they really can't hear anymore. Love yourself!" and other phrases that make singles nervous.
Modern singles increasingly choose to live without a partner, without needing special reasons or approval from those around them. No, they are not "too picky" and "no, they don't want to go on a blind date with the neighbor's nephew". They are usually happy with their lives - until someone close or a casual acquaintance throws one of those "wise" remarks that are supposed to be uplifting but often have the opposite effect.
1. "Just love yourself, then someone else will love you." Probably no one who says it even knows what the phrase actually means. Singles who hear this phrase often wonder if their only problem is their own feelings and if they should even want a real partner.
2. "True love comes when you least expect it." As if it were some kind of package that will just appear on the doorstep. Those who actually want a partner deserve sincere encouragement and not just these clichéd phrases without depth.
3. "What are you waiting for, the clock is ticking!" An extremely popular phrase for women over thirty who have not included motherhood in their five-year plan. But what if a woman is just not sure if she wants to have children? Or if she doesn't want children in the way society expects her to?
4. “Why don't you have anyone yet? You are really attractive." It sounds like a compliment, but in fact, it often gives a single person the feeling that something is wrong if they are not in a relationship. Why would relationship status affect a person's worth in the first place?
5. “You know who else is single? I have someone for you.” This attempt to play Cupid is often awkward, and it is even more embarrassing when singles try to refuse the "offer". Especially if it is a distant relative whom the grandmother met in the store and already sees the "right combination".
6. "When you find 'the one', you will realize why it hasn't worked before." Well, maybe it's just that someone is alone. People who are happy in their singleness do not experience it as waiting for something better.
7. “Try Tinder, so many people have met their partner there!” Finding true love on apps is a serious mission for many, while for others it's just an unpleasant memory of a couple of unsuccessful chats or dates.
8. "Look at the positive - at least you have a career." Who said people who are in a relationship can't have a career? However, if a person is happy with their career path, it does not mean that it has to be a substitute for love.
9. "You'll be funny one day that you've been single for so long." What's more, many people are quite happy to be alone for a long time, because during this period they can really get to know who they are.
10. "Believe in love, it comes when you least expect it." This phrase may be well-intentioned, but many singles find it hard to listen to. They may not believe in love in the same way that those around them see it, and this cannot be forced.
11. "Singleness is not natural, man needs company." Or really? Humans are social creatures, it's true, but that doesn't mean that every society is necessarily a romantic relationship.
12. "You're too picky, that's why you're alone." But what if someone knows what they want and doesn't want to compromise on the things that are important to them? Pickiness can also be an expression of self-respect.
13. “At least you have more money for yourself.” True, singles may have slightly different financial priorities, but why should money be a substitute for a partner?
14. “Trust me, nobody's perfect.” People who are single are mostly not looking for perfection, but compatibility and a person who will respect them.
15. “We all want to have someone by our side.” It's a stereotype that just doesn't hold true anymore. Sometimes being single is a choice, not a necessity.
16. "Don't you want a family?" Every person has their own dreams and goals. Family does not have to be the same vision for everyone.
17. “It's fun now, but you'll see that you'll need someone one day.” Interesting how people often assume that a single person will someday need a partner to feel secure.
18. “Life is meaningless without love.” Love may indeed be one of the most magical things in life, but that doesn't mean it's the only meaning.
Conclusion: Singleness can be a conscious choice and a source of happiness. Everyone has the right to live the life they want, without expectations or pressure from the environment. Next time you want to give advice to a single person, hold back and just enjoy the conversation. No unnecessary "smart" advice.
