Are you sure your messages don't scream "too much"? Why doesn't the person ever get back to you after the first meeting? Is it possible that you just gave the wrong impression with your message?
In today's dating culture, where most communication is taken over by apps and messages, the unexpected can happen after a perfect evening: silence. No response, no follow-up, no message.
And then it begins: the contemplation of every detail, reading between the lines, checking their phone every five minutes. When the wait becomes unbearable, many people make the mistake of writing a message that instantly ruins the impression they built the night before.
It may seem like every follow-up message is an expression of interest, but in reality, some phrases like cold showerNot because they are rude, but because they indicate insecurity, impatience, or even emotional dependence.
If you want the story to continue, then it's important to know, What you can't send.
Below we reveal the most unattractive types of messages, which act as a red light – and that right from the start!
1. “Are you there?” – more than just a question
Although it sounds innocent, this line quickly reveals that you are too focused on the response. It is even worse if it comes in series. It does not come across as interest, but as control and intolerance. If someone hasn't responded, that says enough.
2. A series of messages without a response
“Hi, how are you?”, “Are you okay?”, “Hello?”. Such a stream of texts in a short period of time is like a digital knock on a door that may no longer be open. Instead of interest you show restlessness, as if you can't handle even a few hours of silence.
3. “Why aren’t you answering?” – a question that leads nowhere
When you put a person in front of a wall and demand an explanation, you've made one of the biggest beginner's mistakes. Such a question sounds accusatory, erases that pleasant lightness that is necessary in the initial stages of getting to know each other.
4. Excessive display of emotions
Writing long messages about how hard your day was, how much stress you experienced, how nothing is going according to plan – all of this may sound sincere, but it comes across as emotional overwhelm. If you barely know each other, the person will not be willing to carry your burden. It is not sympathy that you will receive, but distance.
5. “I miss you” after one meeting?
This kind of statement doesn't sound romantic, but possessiveIt seems like you've created a picture in your head of a relationship that doesn't yet exist. And that's enough to push the other person away.
6. Affirming self-worth through questions
“Did I like you?”, “Do you think we get along?” – such questions do not seek dialogue, but approval. Anything built on such foundations sounds fragile and uncertain. If you don't believe in yourself, why should others?
Sometimes less is more
First impressions aren't always made on a date. Sometimes they're confirmed (or shattered) after the date—in the way you communicate when things aren't "live." If you push yourself too hard with words, you suffocate an opportunity that's barely born. Messages should be rare, light, and without expectations. This is how you will show self-confidence, which is always more attractive than a desperate attempt at contact.
