Jeff Haden, one of the most influential and popular people on LinkedIn and the author of nearly 30 business books, explains how it is possible for some people to simply gain the trust of others and create a positive self-image.
1. Don't be afraid of defeats.
Charming, charming people do not try to win at all costs - on the contrary, their goals are to give and not expect anything in return. They admit their mistakes and failures, and it is not difficult for them to talk about their weaknesses. They can openly say "I'm jealous of you" or "I don't know that, can you please teach me" because they know that people appreciate honesty and real feelings.
2. Show that you are sincerely glad that they met you.
Eye contact is important in a conversation, and people with charisma know it. They smile when others smile at them. They grimace or nod when others do. They focus on the words and actions of others and listen carefully.
3. You seek mutual understanding.
Most people unconsciously look for contradictions and disagreements, which can lead to conflict. Charming and charismatic people are always looking for common ground. This helps to start an interesting conversation and evoke positive emotions in the interlocutor.
4. Use the power of touch.
Touch is a powerful tool that helps people better understand emotions. If you want to congratulate someone, think about how you could do it better - are you going to shake hands or pat someone on the back?
This will help you prove the sincerity of your words, express your true feelings and gain the trust of your interlocutor.
5. Uses facial expressions and gestures.
Sympathetic people express their feelings well and accurately. They can turn even the most boring story into a fascinating conversation. They use gestures and facial expressions to express the mood of their story. And this helps them really engage their interlocutor.
6. You are not ashamed to come across as 'stupid'.
They may not be good in a certain area, but they are not afraid to admit it, because it only makes people respect them more. When you are ready to show your weaknesses and are not afraid of looking 'stupid', people don't laugh at you, at most they laugh with you.
7. You are good at asking questions.
Charming people can easily get you talking about yourself. They do not hesitate to ask questions and speak openly about themselves and others. These people genuinely want to know what you think, so they are trustworthy.
8. You don't forget names.
Charismatic people always remember names and other details. The fact that someone knows your name, even if you've only known them for a short time, gives you a sense of importance. So call people by name and don't forget friends, relatives or pets.
9. You listen more and talk less.
Most people have a hard time listening, but everyone wants to share a story at some point. And it's a great feeling when you tell a story and see the audience respond to your words with care and emotion. Charming people listen and talk less. This helps them learn more interesting things about the person and thus more easily find a common theme.
