Have you ever thought about how jealous you are? Are you being overly suspicious? Do you not care what your partner does?
Jealousy it has a lot to do with how we perceive ourselves. If we are not satisfied with ourselves; if we experience ourselves as unattractive, unsuccessful and uninteresting, we will be inappropriately more jealous than if we have a good self-image.
If we feel loved, valued and accepted in a relationship, if we are open with each other and trust each other, we will be less jealous than if our partner rejects us emotionally and hides things from us.
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Jealousy can also serve as a kind of reminder, because it warns us that our partner is not taken for granted and that he can leave at any time.
Answer the questions and find out if you are jealous!
1. Your partner has started receiving strange phone calls that he does not answer in your presence, goes to the kitchen or bathroom, and speaks quietly. What is your reaction?
A. I will tell him my story, he must have a lover.
B. I will eavesdrop when he talks on the phone or look for his phone to see who called him, who he texted…
C. I think I know what he's talking about, it's my birthday soon, he must be planning a surprise for me!
2. You think you saw your partner in a crowd from afar, sitting in a taxi with an unknown young woman/man. What do you think?
A. He's cheating on me! I'm going home right now, and I'm throwing all his stuff out the window!
B. Just who is she/he? In the evening I will ask him who he is taking a taxi with.
C. I must have just thought it was him. I know he was at work at the time.
3. A loved one returned home scented with expensive French perfume. You…
A Immediately think that he bought it because we are seeing someone else and accuse him of infidelity.
B. You tell him you like the way he smells and ask him when he's going to buy you this perfume.
C. Nothing like that, she uses a new perfume.
4. You keep calling your partner, but he doesn't pick up the phone. How are you behaving?
A. You already have the worst case scenarios in your mind and their essence is the same, it is certainly with another woman/man.
B. He's probably in a meeting.
C. He is busy and can't hear. He will call me as soon as he sees the call.
5. Could you forgive infidelity?
A. Never!
B. It would hurt and humiliate me a lot, but I would find the strength to forgive. Family comes first.
C. Yes, why make a drama out of a moment of weakness?! After all, who among us is without sin?
Solutions
Most of the answers under A
You are overly jealous, and this can sometimes turn into obsession. It wouldn't hurt to control your jealousy a little. Otherwise, one day your loved one will decide they've had enough of your outbursts and leave.
Most answers under B
You trust your partner, but sometimes jealousy awakens in your soul, which is more good than bad, because it shows that you still care about your partner. A little jealousy also gives him self-confidence, he feels wanted.
Most answers under C
You are not jealous at all. At first glance, this may seem great, because you are always in a good mood, you do not make scenes and scandals. But such an attitude can also mean that you always follow the line of least resistance. If there is ever a real reason to doubt your partner, you won't believe your eyes, but you will convince yourself that you made it all up.
