Scientists have found that your meanest friend is the one who really cares about you

When it comes to relationships between people, you must consider your inner feeling. If certain people are real to you they are annoying and make you feel uncomfortable, there is no point in maintaining a relationship with them. Friends who are brutally honest and fair, are a special category of people - these are not people you had to cut out of your life, but a blessing, because they take care of you the most from all friends and they actually care.

Your friend told you that you have gained weight, that the dress you bought ugly, that you put on ugly make-up have you done stupidity – these words are probably yours affected, but look at it with another point of view: maybe they do it on purpose!

In the research Making people feel bad can be a strategy for helping them have found that some close friends deliberately inflict negative feelings on their best friends because they think they will their comments are useful in the long run. And the reason lies in the fact that they care.

Belén López-Pére, the scientist who led the research, explains, how people express cruelty in order to be kind. They are in research participants had to imagine that they were in the role of a person, who has been left by her partner and is heartbroken.

In different ways, through playing games, listening to music and watching videos are on 140 participants analyzed why negative emotions have a positive impact. They found that they were participants tried to stimulate negative emotions in the bereaved person (instead of being empathetic) because they thought they would have them long-term benefits (the person will stop grieving, will whiten the former love, will meet a new person, will fall in love again).

Their findings help us understand why do we sometimes try to make our loved ones feel bad, if we perceive that it is emotion useful to achieve their goal.