A real man loves one woman.
We're not talking about age here. Many men who are mature in years are completely immature in their thinking. Maturity in this context refers to a state of mind, a standard of personal and emotional development that separates certain men from others.
Many women make the mistake of dating men with a childish, insecure mindset and end up experiencing unnecessary drama as a result. If you are the kind of woman who respects herself and takes her happiness and quality of life seriously, then be careful not to waste your time on immature men.
Here are ten reasons why it is better to date men who are emotionally developed and mentally mature!
1. They are protective but not possessive
It is a common misconception that the more control a man has over you, the more he cares about you. This couldn't be further from the truth; if he really cared about you, he would know that he can control you.
True maturity in love is understanding. Loving someone means knowing that you have to let them be free. Don't be possessive of the person you're with, don't limit them, let them fly. A mature man knows this. It doesn't mean he doesn't care about you - he's still protective. But he has no desire to own you. He knows that to love is to trust without any sense of control.
2. When they say they love you, they mean it
A mature man won't tell you he loves you if he doesn't really mean it. He understands the intensity and depth of emotion that comes with love. He understands how much power is attached to those words and how with that power comes responsibility. Mature men will not use it as a weapon or a tool to manipulate you; when they tell you they love you, it comes from a sincere place – from the heart.
3. They want to inspire and build you up, not tear you down
With maturity comes the realization of what a relationship is, what is the bond that two people have with each other. With immature men, this bond can be very toxic and full of resentment and envy. Your achievements only fuel their feelings of failure and inferiority. They put you down because of this feeling, just to make them feel better.
In mature men, however, this bond is positive, healthy and loving. They don't see your accomplishments as threatening or embarrassing, they're proud of you. They want the relationship they have to be mutual and inspiring. They want to support you. They understand that together they can help each other reach new heights of achievement, love and happiness.
4. They challenge you because they know you can do better
A mature man knows what you are capable of. Rather than being strict or overbearing, he simply helps you see your problems from different angles. It encourages you to go up to the obstacle and try to overcome it. He forces you to be the best version of you because he knows deep down what you are truly capable of.
5. They are feminists like you
Immature men are likely to view feminism as a movement of offended women.
But mature men understand that anyone with an iota of common sense, compassion and respect for others is a feminist/feminist. Mainly because he knows that this is really about respect for differences and the equality of people, regardless of their appearance or gender.
6. They can talk, manage and process their own emotions
The most refreshing thing about dating mature men is their ability to understand and process their own emotions. Many men can't seem to do this perfectly, causing them to bottle things up, dwell on them, and become completely intoxicated with their disdain and dissatisfaction with themselves and others.
7. They admit when they are wrong
Mature men are not afraid of mistakes. They know that no one is perfect. They accept their mistakes and see them as opportunities for development and growth. They are open when they mess up and aren't too proud to throw up their hands and say they were wrong.
Immature men, on the other hand, will be greatly crippled by the mistakes they make. In fact, they could be ashamed to try to hide and bury their mistakes at all costs, which can only lead to lies, suspicion and resentment.
8. They have a mature insight into their own emotional state
A mature man knows how to regulate and control his emotions; he is not a slave to emotions. He understands that no one is to blame for how he feels inside, and that bottling up his emotions will only make things worse. Therefore, he can talk about how he feels, no matter how difficult it is. You can sit down with a mature man and calmly discuss even the toughest emotions without it devolving into a huge argument where both sides are screaming out of pure frustration and anger.
9. They understand the importance of mutual trust
A truly mature man is someone who knows how fundamental trust is to a relationship. Trust is the foundation and basis of any romantic relationship. Without it, we might as well build on sand. They know what they have to do to sustain mutual trust. They are open and honest, knowing that no matter how much they will make mistakes, without trust they have nothing.
10. They respect you and don't take you for granted
Mature men don't see women as trophies or status symbols. They don't assume you'll always be there for them like immature men do if they treat you badly or ignore your needs and wants. Instead, they treat you like the person you are, with love and respect. They respect you and consider your feelings.
