"It is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all." – Alfred Tennyson
You usually expect too much from love in relationships. You paint images in your mind, ideas about a romantic story that should instantly turn into endless love with the person you're thinking about. In them, you spin a romantic movie, how your love should look like, how it should unfold, and you impatiently wait for all of this to come true.
And then comes love. Maybe it grabs you in an instant and is impossible to ignore. It may come quietly and surprise you when you least expect it. Love has taken up residence in you, but instead of allowing the happiness and infatuation you've been waiting for so long to overwhelm you, you've invited fear and expectations into the relationship alongside them, which keeps you wondering in your mind if you've made the right decision. Is this person really the one you should be with? Will she be around you and love you as much as you will love her?
Your wounded heart and the thought of opening up to someone completely, of letting someone hurt you again, of feeling the pain again, makes you doubt yourself, especially since you don't know if your relationship will last or just be temporary. The thought of letting go seems simply unacceptable to you.
Instead of opening your heart and enjoying love, you observe it from afar, with fear and mistrust. In this way, you don't tell people how much they mean to you, but you push them away from you. Don't allow yourself to love them from your heart. You keep thinking what if this isn't the person you're going to spend your life with.
If you have a closed heart, your relationship will end quickly or never start at all.
It's only a matter of time before the person leaves and breaks your heart (and maybe their own because they loved you). But you are still only worried about the future. You forget about love, about the present. It's understandable that you want to protect yourself from pain. But love is so beautiful, reckless, embrace it. If you constantly fear and push people away from you, every decision you make will end in a broken heart. You will no longer know how to put it together, you will no longer know how to love.
Let them love you. And you love them. But that doesn't mean your life has to revolve only around this person. Allow yourself to experience love in its entirety and give it without fear. When you fall in love and your feelings are returned, it makes no sense to hold back the love that you hide in your heart. Love this person, even if they are only meant to be in your life for a short time.
You will not lose your love if you love someone who is not meant to be with you for a long time. He came into your life to teach you to love again. Love is not something that can disappear because you gave it to the "wrong" person, it just changes from person to person until the right person comes into your life and a love that lasts forever.
Sometimes life brings you people to fall in love with and love for a short time. The kind that show you things you need to know. To teach you things you might never learn. Sometimes, just to show you that you are still capable of love, and that it is worth any risk you will have to take to experience that love. These are the lessons of love and life.
Life has given you the opportunity to love this person as only you know how, and for this person to love you in a way that only they know how to love.
Maybe it's temporary. Maybe it's forever.
Be in love with each other. Be your priorities. Love each other like no one else will, because only the two of you know how to love each other this way. You will never love anyone the same way again. This love is only yours.
He may not be with you tomorrow, next week, or a year, but he is with you now. Love passionately, madly. Jump over all obstacles, make the impossible possible.
Don't live in fear of the future, live for yourself and him/her - now. Give you love a chance or you'll never know if that person - your person - is your love that lasts forever.
