You will fight many battles in life. You will win some and realize that you paid too much to win. You will defeat people you don't want to hurt and make them losers!
You will win in situations that might have turned out better if you hadn't resisted. You will win and realize that the battle is never over. You don't have to give up the concept of combat if you are a warrior or driven by ambition. But you can give up on battles you can't win.
Stop fighting for people's respect
Accept the fact that you can't make people love you if they don't feel it. Stop worrying about problems you can't solve, because circumstances often override your influence. Stop arguing with people who can't even hear you, they won't start listening to you just because you're louder and angry.
Some battles you can't win, so sometimes it's better to retreat
This is not weakness, but common sense. These are battles that your stubbornness or excessive sense of duty forces you into, or a sense of responsibility that is not yours at all. And all of them have only one outcome - you will lose, you will feel bad, you will reduce the quality of your life. And you'll find that you've been fighting yourself and playing games instead of using common sense.
When you worry about something you can't control, you're fighting a battle you can't win
You cannot control and direct the opinions and behavior of other people. You can't rely on circumstances, nothing guarantees that everyone around you will be happy.
When you try to gain the respect of others, you are fighting a battle you cannot win
You present yourself in the best light and create an unrealistic image of yourself. Such that you don't believe in it yourself and repress all problems somewhere inside of you. You are dealing with masks instead of structure. This may irritate your ego, but self-respect is not about ego, but about self-awareness, about being.
When you try to convince someone that you are worthy of love, you are fighting a losing battle
Love is given and received freely or it is not there. You cannot earn or gain love! Instead of trying to prove them wrong, back off. Find someone who makes you feel loved and desired, effortlessly. Someone who will love you for who you are.
When you argue with those who can't hear you, you lose
This is a very difficult position to be in, since you are probably not arguing with strangers, but with someone you care about. You have to quit anyway. Trying to break down someone's walls only forces that person to dig deeper and offer more resistance, and you're just building up stress and wasting energy. It's exhausting for both you and them.
Try to accept, respect and appreciate even those who do not hear your truth
And they don't understand what you want from them, stop pressuring them and directing them. Show them your trust!
Decide to care enough about yourself to let go of pointless struggles. So that you don't invest your time, thoughts, feelings and energy where they don't flow freely and connect you with others.
Accept and admit defeat if necessary. It's liberating. Good luck in your small and big victories.
