According to the experience of marriage therapists, there is a key habit that most often causes partners to cheat - can you guess what it is?
Partners most often cheat because they they avoid conflicts. Anyone who has been in a relationship knows that conflict is an inevitable thing in any relationship. You can reach them it comes for many reasons, but they are most often caused by different perspectives.
People are in a relationship because they expect, that they will benefit from a partner. And he from them. Precisely in this process of reciprocity there is a sacrifice and finding a balance, which may not be optimal sometimes. And so it happens of conflict. There is nothing wrong with him, but the problem is, if couples avoid it, say family patients.
Many couples will suppressed their emotions, because they for various reasons they don't want to express. And it becomes harmful, especially if it is negative emotions, problems and doubts. Avoiding them will accomplish nothing useful, because at some point it will boil over and they will judge each other for things, o which they never spoke to.
Since the person did not expect this kind of action, and the two of you are not used to talking about your problems, fraud occurs.
Therapists believe that the only way to eliminate the risk of cheating is to they start talking seriously. You are before that ask some questions:
1. Is there anything I can't share with my partner??
2. Why am I afraid to share certain things?
3. What I want from a partner, but I ignore it?
4. What is the key thing that will make me feel good that I am not getting from my partner?
Conflict isn't always bad and it's only natural that it will happen, so don't be afraid of it because that's the only way you'll find out, what factors create a problem in your relationship. Ignoring it will lead to negative emotions such as contempt and resentment.
These two emotions are much worse than frustration because they only mean one thing: YOUR PARTNER PERCEIVES YOU AS A PERSON OF LESS WORTHY!
