From the moment we come into this world, we are embedded in complex social relations and structures that tell us how to distinguish 'normal' from 'abnormal'. A young child is expected to attend kindergarten diligently and happily. When he enters school, good grades are synonymous with being a successful person. By entering the labor market, a bunch of new expectations are formed, which should be fulfilled. When will we be able to live the way each of us wants?
In childhood, we think that by growing up we will achieve all that what we really want. But it quickly turns out that all the people around us are way too much are interested in our lives – parents they want us to work hard at school, to choose the right course of study, to get married and make them happy with grandchildren, friends they pressure us with their opinions, capitalist society but he wants us all to have the best car, apartment and technological gadgets. And everyone else seems to know how we should live, but we don't.
In this context, we thought about the different patterns and expectations that society imposes on us. Consider how often it has happened to you that vas people are judged based on these six values below... or you judge them.
1. A successful person must have a car, an apartment and the latest technology.
Modern society actively encourages pleasure, which should be achieved with consumption. It imposes on us what we must have in our home, car, fridge, purse, ultimately on us to show society that we successful. It does not matter if we are financially able to finance certain things and services, it is important to camouflage the prestige, which is like a 'sect of our society' that we all have to follow, yes would prove, that we are 'upper class'.
2. Why am I less valuable than another person?
Psychologists describe the phenomenon imitating the life of other social groups as an experiment emulating the lifestyles of celebrities and businessmen, who have money to fulfill their desires. It's clear that we 'mere mortals' will probably never have the resources, or don't currently have them, to keep up with all of this the trend. Since we cannot reach them, we develop a complex of lesser value, which affects the quality of life.
3. If we don't post on Instagram, we're unhappy.
The situation is quite simple – better photos than we have on social media, the more successful and better our life is. At least that's what people who follow us on Instagram will think. Psychologists note here, that people who have a constant need to publish glimpses of their lives develop narcissistic characteristics, and visitors to their profiles often become envious and depressed.
4. If I'm not tired, I'm not a good mom.
If I didn't tired, I'm not a good mother – this is a life motto that many mothers follow, because they adapt too much to the child. 'Perfect mothers' who devote themselves too much to the child, they never have time for themselves. Psychologists and teachers are concerned about this, because they say that mothers devote themselves so much to their children that the new generation will not learn to make independent decisions.
5. I don't have a college degree?
Over the past years, the idea has been formed in our society that a person without higher education belongs to a 'lower caste', the doors of all prestigious companies are open to graduates. We are totally in line with that lost respect for "simple" work. Students are ashamed to say that they have decided on a career path, if they were born in a family that continues the tradition of a particular science, there are often many students must not allow, to become anything else.
6. Where did you go on vacation this year?
How embarrassing is it to say that we didn't go anywhere on vacation this year? The amazement of others that we are stayed at home and our fear of telling it has to do with increased travel and unusual competition, who has visited several countries.
