"The law is like a besieged fortress: those who are outside want to get in, and those who are inside want to get out." Pierre-Marie Quitard
Swedish psychologist and family relationship consultant Lana Jerkander describes strikes that can seriously destroy a marriage and family. So really avoid them! Every thing can be solved by talking and proper communication, in which we don't need to be offensive. Of course, we all sometimes "break the film" and say something that we would prefer to take back right away, but if this happens often, then it's time to think carefully about the damage we are doing with our words!
1. Causing guilt: "You didn't wipe your shoes in the hallway again", "You forgot to buy bread again." … There is nothing constructive in these sentences. By doing this, you constantly accuse your partner of the same thing.
2. Phrases that make a person feel ashamed: "How could you do that?", "Only a dishonest person could do such a thing!" This sentence is a typical provocation followed by an argument.
3. Bets targeting the partner's nationality: "Typical Slovenian."
4. Phrases involving family members in a marital dispute: "You're just like your father!", "I'm not as stupid as your mother!" …
5. Phrases that humiliate men's or women's dignity: "I married a farmer!", "You are as fat as a pig!" …
6. Words that emphasize a lack of love for a partner: "You could have married much better", "You don't even reach my knees." …
7. "You think only of your own benefit!", "You are selfish!"...
8. Words that indicate unwillingness to fulfill the wishes of the wife / husband: "And what do you think, that after all this, I will still be married to you?", "It never occurs to me to be with you for a moment longer!" …
9. Phrases that reduce the importance of the partner's needs: "I will find myself without you!", "I never loved you, I was only with you out of pity and for the sake of the children!"
10. Sentences of neglect, refusal: "I don't want to see you anymore.", "Get out of my sight "...
15 quotes that will help you stay happy in your marriage and avoid divorce
If you too are facing partnership challenges these days, you might want to read the tips below that can help you figure out what you and your partner are doing wrong.
1. Divorce should be the last resort to solve problems in a marriage
"My husband and I have never considered divorce... sometimes murder, but never divorce." – Joyce Brothers
2. Try to strengthen your bond with your partner every day
"A family is a family and is not defined by marriage, divorce or adoption documents. Families are made in the heart. If you break those ties, those people are no longer your family. If you create them, these people are your family. And if you hate those bonds, those people will still be your family, because whatever you hate will always be with you.” – C. JoyBell C.
3. Always look for the best in your partner, this will help you maintain the love you have for each other
"Maybe we lost the charm we used to have because of the monotony of everyday life, but I want you to know that you are the woman of my dreams and I don't know what I would do without you if you weren't by my side. You're everything I've been looking for. I know I don't tell you this often enough, but… I really do love you.” - Unknown author
4. Don't allow time to make you indifferent to your partner and relationship responsibilities
"The stress relief in marriages is not in divorce. It is in repentance and forgiveness, in sincere words and deeds. Not in divorce. It is in the simple integrity that lies within men and women to rise up and fulfill their responsibilities. It can be found in the golden rule - communication in marriage." – Gordon B. Hinckley
5. Always resolve issues between the two of you and fully accept your differences
"What matters in creating a happy marriage is not your compatibility, but how you deal with your incompatibility." - Leo Tolstoy
6. Stick to the principle "through thick and thin" and be there for each other
“I'll tell you something, Harpy,” he said, almost whispering. "It never occurred to me that we wouldn't succeed. And it never occurred to you that we would. You were just waiting for us to go up in flames. I thought we could beat anything." – Kristen Higgins
7. A good marriage is based on love and friendship, so never forget that one of the most important things in a marriage is being a friend to your partner
"Happy is the man who finds a true friend. Much happier is the one who finds a true friend in his wife." – Franz Schubert
8. Allow your partner to be who they really are
"I want you. Forehead. Your flaws. Your mistakes. All your imperfections. I want you and only you.” – John Legend
9. Try to show your partner that you love him/her to the moon and back
"One day you will ask me what is more important? My life or yours? I will say mine, and you will leave, not knowing that you are my life.” – Khalil Gibran
10. Be as present as possible in your partner's life
"You can't build relationships without being present." – James Earl Jones
11. Make your partner laugh
"Make her smile, make her smile, make her smile. After all, the strongest relationships are those in which you and your partner can laugh through anything.” – Mary Elizabeth Ellis
12. Satisfy him, both sexually and emotionally
"When you are mentally, physically, emotionally and spiritually healthy - when you are doing well, you will do good things in life." – Andrew Cherng
13. They fall in love, over and over again, every day
"A successful marriage requires you to fall in love many times, but always with the same person." – Mignon McLoughlin
14. Problems can be a way to strengthen your bond instead of destroying it
"The great secret of a successful marriage is to treat all disasters as incidents and none of the incidents as disasters." – Sir Harold George Nicolson
15. Talking with your partner is crucial for a long and happy relationship
"Ultimately, the bond of all socializing, be it in marriage or friendship, is conversation." – Oscar Wilde
