If you're an open person, you probably like to tell as many people as possible about yourself. But you shouldn't do that, there are things you should keep to yourself for many reasons!
Psychologists say that you should keep some things to yourself, like secrets and not reveal them to anyone who is not close to you. Excessive self-talk alienates other people and fills your ego.
If you feel you need to bring up some of these topics in your conversation, take a moment to think about your reasons. It's not always a good idea to share all the facts about yourself and every aspect of your life.
Details about your life
Most people are trying to improve themselves and the quality of their lives. While it's great to lose extra pounds or climb a rung on the corporate ladder, you shouldn't brag about every step you take to everyone around you, even strangers.
You need to share the details of life with those who are a part of your life. Don't look for validation from other people, because then you're no longer living life for yourself. Satisfaction should come from yourself, from within, and not only and exclusively from external factors.
Family problems
There are very few who do not have family problems, and those who are involved in them do not benefit from the fact that strangers know their intimate affairs. You may feel better when someone takes your side, but other family members will not be comfortable. There will be more negativity.
Confidential information should remain confidential. If things are intractable, there's a difference between seeking help and unproductive storytelling. It is appropriate to tell the therapist what is happening so that he can gain insight into the situation and try to help you.
The good works you have done
If you constantly talk about how you are trying to be a good person, it destroys any sense of selflessness that was present in your actions and intentions. This also shows a lack of respect for others as you are indirectly saying that you are better than them.
In an attempt to improve others' opinion of you, you can plant seeds of doubt that would otherwise not exist. Why are you trying to convince people that you are good? What are you hiding?
If you did something good and boasted to others, at that moment you lost the positive karma and all the fruits of the good work that you earned in the process.
Your hidden ambitions
When you talk about future goals, don't tell everyone, let your actions and achievements speak for themselves. There is a lot of research that supports the fact that talking excessively about a future goal gives the intention holder a premature sense of completeness. This reduces the likelihood of achieving your goals, as you will lose motivation. It is unlikely that you will persist in their implementation.
If you have something planned, if you want to do something - don't tell anyone. As soon as you say this, the probability of this happening decreases by 80 %, especially if you confided this to an envious person.
Why do people who speak little and deliberately achieve more? Because they don't waste energy!
