Long-lasting intimate relationships don't fall apart overnight. Even if it sometimes seems that way, in reality, unresolved problems, unopened topics and dissatisfactions are accumulating, which explode in a moment of great distress. Due to which actions it is slowly falling apart.
What should you pay attention to in order to save your relationship? We offer some answers in an article that describes how love dies!
These are the actions that break up a relationship…
Lack of emotional connection
Emotional support and connection isn't just about standing by when problems arise outside of your relationship. Above all, it also means that they can trust each other with how they feel, communicate their fears and be vulnerable.
If you two are missing this key point, it is dangerous for the relationship. When we become deprived of emotional connection, we become insecure and/or attracted to other people. Emotional connection is a key need of every human being.
Blaming
Conflicts give us an opportunity to solve problems. But if they are derived in the wrong way, they can be harmful. One of the common wrong approaches to solving relationship problems is to blame each other instead of resolving the conflict by thinking that you actually have a common goal, that you are sailing in the same boat - that you want to save the relationship and both feel better about each other. to others.
Spinning in a circle
It is even more dangerous when one or both pretend that there are no problems at all. It often happens that one partner warns of problems, while the other feels helpless and simply shuts down, does not acknowledge the feelings and distress of the other partner, and ignores the warning signs until it is too late.
On the one hand, the first partner takes more and more responsibility for solving the problems (since he is the only one who sees that otherwise the relationship may end), putting more and more pressure on the other to make them realize that they have to face the problems. In the worst case, the second partner even more persistently ignores the plight of the first, shuts down and convinces himself that everything will be fine. This kind of spinning in a circle does not end well by itself.
Focusing on negative things
Focusing on the negative instead of the positive can put your relationship at risk. No relationship is perfect, and everyone (even if it's often hidden to the outside observer) has hard times, hurt stories, and negative experiences. It is important that you resolve these negative aspects and then let them go and focus on the positive aspects of your relationship.
Unresolved conflicts
Unresolved problems will not disappear, but will continue to haunt you from the shadows and grow bigger and bigger. Although it seems scary and threatening at the moment, your relationship has the best chance if you look them in the eye as soon as possible and try to overcome them together.
