This is the only type of woman that a man will never leave

Once, a long time ago, when I was still inexperienced, I heard stories about how men don't leave their partners for a more beautiful woman, but for more interesting women. This is a broad generalization. It is certainly true that men leave their wives or partners for younger and probably (to them) more attractive partners. Love can disappear. This is true.

As I grew up, became a woman, and life offered more opportunities to observe, gain experience, and self-observe, I began to believe that men are truly attracted to women who are more interesting. Now I'm more and more convinced that men would rather leave their partner for someone interesting than physically attractive, and that's because life has taught me a few lessons about the complexities of men.

The more I learned about myself as a woman, the more I realized that men are extremely deep beings. They pursue their goals, and I've watched them enough to know that they like women who are passionate about things. You know, a life well lived can be very inspiring and sparks curiosity about those who truly live it. But men are curious. They like to seek and hunt women who have their own self-respect.

Here are some things I've learned from men about what makes a woman interesting.

1. A woman who knows what she wants and isn't afraid to say it out loud

Gone are the days when women were advised to be cautious and keep their thoughts hidden. The conversation is no longer an endless circle, talking only about what the man has achieved or what he knows. Any man worth our attention will be dying to hear what we think.

To clarify: women who are able to express their wisdom in an easy way are the easiest people to learn from. Insightful, sarcastic conversation really isn't necessary. Honest, open discussion is the solid foundation of a relationship between a man and a woman.

Attract a man with your intellectual gift, with an ease that matches the complexity of your mind. I've said it once before, but it bears repeating: a strong mind is very sexy and turns a man's head off.

I will quote Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie: "Of course I'm not worried about timid men. The type of man I manage to scare is definitely not the type I like.”

2. A woman who feels good in her own skin

You have worked hard to become the best version of yourself. So don't be afraid to show your strength, but don't brag. Do not try to compete with men, there is no need.

Confidence is not the same as cockiness. Self-confidence does not make a fuss about itself, because its essence radiates in a quiet way. Let your unique personality and achievements speak for themselves. Let them be expressed in your own way, how you treat yourself, how you listen to a man. Believe me, men love women who are willing to share things from the heart with them and listen to them too.

Although men like to compete in various areas of life, it is not much fun for them to compete with a woman who is determined to prove that she is their equal. Show them your truth and respect theirs!

3. A woman who looks after her own interests

My partner and I don't agree on everything. He is a passionate sportsman, I am not... Our musical taste is different, we rarely travel together, but we are still firmly connected as lovers and as friends.

Why?

He knows I'm into my own stuff, whether or not we're doing it together. It doesn't really matter if our interests align. In fact, we are committed to supporting each other in our separate endeavors. A real compliment is when you hear from a man that he is interested in your ideas and interests.

Engage a man's mind with interest, ignite his curiosity and he will eat out of your hand.

Of course, there are days when I don't want to do anything but sit next to him and forget about all my hobbies. Be curious and find out what makes your man tick and grab his attention with your mystery.

To quote Anaïs Nin: "The enemy of love never hides outside, it is not a man or a woman, but what we lack within ourselves."

4. A woman who knows how to accept and give a compliment

I had a friend who was very shy when she received a compliment. She was unusually attractive, mischievous and smart, but she never knew how to take a compliment, and her boyfriends (there were several) never understood why she shied away from their admiration.

She had everything, but she didn't believe in herself. Men prefer giving compliments to buying flowers. When they tell you what they see in you, they are looking for a smile. And it can be very frustrating when someone keeps rejecting your compliments.

So if you plan to be interesting, enjoy the compliments. Give the man a sign that you are aware of your strength and that you are not ashamed to show it.

And remember, men are not immune to compliments either. I haven't met anyone who didn't want to hear them. As long as it is a sincere compliment, a man will know how to appreciate it.

5. A woman who knows how to take care of herself

I mean that in every way. When we divide ourselves into parts, deeming one more worthy of our attention than the other, we lose the beautiful balance of what makes us human. We are made of flesh and blood and although we have been told for centuries that looks don't matter, I disagree.

I watched two women who were blessed by God with natural beauty. They both had busy jobs. One always found time for herself, bought something and generally took care of her appearance. Another was determined to show that appearance is not important, but only spiritual and emotional state.

She didn't lack money or time. She was determined that her partner would admit that looks didn't matter. It was based on the fact that he would love her no matter what. He really loved her, but lost interest in her along the way. She complained that he was looking at other women, he admitted to her that he had lost interest in her.

Every part of you is important to a man - the part that occupies his heart, the part that occupies his mind, and also the part that makes him want to rip your clothes off. I'm not saying you have to be in high heels and negligees when you get home from work. I'm just saying that a man will continue to be interested in you if you also take care of your appearance.

It is not true that love and sex fade in all couples. Those with passion still burning in the bedroom are very interesting and interested.

Yes, it's one thing to catch a man, it's quite another to keep him.